Facials. Yeah, and as the title says, not the kind with a fancy spa menu, cucumber slices on your eyes, and promises of eternal youth. Wrong website for that. I’m not here to sell you on hydrafacials, LED therapy, or whatever microneedling miracle is trending. Sure, the skincare world’s had its glow-up, but let’s be real—there’s one “facial” that’s always stayed relevant. Timeless, really. No need for overpriced serums, just a bit of... enthusiasm. Yep, you guessed it. We’re talking about cum facial.
It's a kink, ya!
If you’re wondering why I’m trying to shed light on something as controversial as cum facials, let’s start with a little disclaimer: it’s a kink. Like any other kink, it’s not for everyone, and that’s perfectly okay. But for those who are into it, facials are often part of a broader kink and fetish culture. The whole thing taps into power dynamics—like dominance and submission. But don’t let the surface-level interpretation fool you; for many, it’s about more than just power. It’s about trust, intimacy, and letting go. There’s a thrill in the taboo, and for some, it even ties into a degradation kink, where breaking the “rules” makes everything feel hotter.
Historically, society has always been fascinated by what’s considered off-limits. Just look at ancient texts like the Kama Sutra or Japanese Shunga art—both depict acts of surrender, dominance, and sexual curiosity, though the specifics differ. In fact, a 1785 book ‘120 Days of Sodom’ also specifically mentioned cumshots/facials. Fast forward to modern times, and facials have become a staple in mainstream porn, often shown as a symbol of dominance. But here’s the disclaimer: real life isn’t porn. In consensual, healthy relationships, facials aren’t about power or conquest—they’re about shared pleasure. For many couples, it’s playful, intimate, and a way to spice things up, not a one-sided power move.
There are countless opinions on cum facials you’re willing to dive down the rabbit hole. People have been debating their merits for ages—sociologists, sexologists, and psychologists included. Columnist Nina Love argues that facials are harmless and add spice to the sexual experience, making them just another form of consensual play. On the flip side, in her book Sex For Dummies, renowned sex therapist Dr. Ruth Westheimer has described them as humiliating rather than erotic. Similarly, Gail Dines, in her book “Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality”, calls facials “one of the most degrading acts” due to their portrayal in mainstream porn.
However, not everyone agrees with this negative framing. Sex-positive feminists have long challenged the notion that facials are inherently degrading. Women's rights activist Beatrice Faust suggests that the act, when consensual and enjoyed by both parties, can actually enhance intimacy. She argues that ejaculation becomes more meaningful and fun when it elicits a positive, playful response, creating a lighthearted and realistic sexual dynamic.
Ultimately, opinions on facials are as varied as the people who have them. Some see them as degrading, others as empowering. The bottom line? It all comes down to how YOU feel about it. Your comfort, boundaries, and desires should always take priority.
I also spoke to a couple of people about their opinion on it - and as expected, these were varied too.
Rhea, 23yo
For me, it’s all about balance. Sure, I think it’s incredibly hot when he finishes on my face—but only if the feeling’s mutual. If he’s not into being covered in my juices, then guess what? His turn’s canceled. I once dated a guy who wouldn’t even go down on me, and he had the nerve to ask for a facial like it was a right. Yeah, no. Now my current partner is all about exploration and reciprocity. He’s generous in every way, and that makes the experience a turn-on for both of us. It’s not just about the act. It’s about mutual pleasure, and I’m all in.
Prajakta, 31yo
Honestly? I love it. I know I’m in the minority, but it hits just right for me. There’s something about the dominance, the way he enjoys it—it makes me feel incredible. Warm, messy, intimate. As long as it doesn’t end up in my eyes (because, ouch), I’m game. Some people think it’s degrading, and I get why. But I actually like that. Turns out I have a degradation kink, and I’m more than okay with embracing it. It’s not everyone’s cup of tea, but it’s definitely mine.
Meher, 27yo
Nope, not for me. Never has been, never will be. If I’m being honest, I don’t like semen. It’s messy, it’s sticky, and the whole thing just feels more annoying than sexy. Some people enjoy it because it feeds into a kink or a fetish, and that’s fine—live your best life. But for me? It’s just a big ick. The idea feels insulting, and I’d rather skip the whole production. To each their own, but I’m firmly in the "no thanks" group.
Where else do people do it?
Facials aren’t the only cum-centric kink. Some people enjoy cumming on the chest, back, stomach, or even feet—and each of them has its own erotic significance. Cum play, in general, centers on the tactile sensation, warmth, and visual appeal of semen. In the context of breast play, cum on the chest, known as a “pearl necklace,” can emphasize the physicality of a partner’s arousal. Ejaculation on the stomach or back can be less about dominance and more about shared pleasure. It’s all a matter of personal preference, communication, and consent. These practices often stem from visual stimulation and the physical messiness, which some find thrilling while others may find off-putting.
How to Do it Safely
Like any sexual activity, cum facials should be done with safety and consent in mind. Communication is critical—both partners should be clear about boundaries and comfort levels. Now, let’s get practical. Avoid the eyes. Semen in the eyes is more “ouch” than “ooh,” so keep a towel handy or close your eyes when things get intense. If it does happen, rinse with cool water ASAP to avoid irritation. Pro tip: adding playful goggles to the mix can even make things more fun.
Hygiene matters, too. Make sure both of you are clean before getting started. If either of you has any concerns about STIs, regular testing is a must, and condoms can be part of the plan if you want to play it extra safe.
Also, be mindful of sensitive skin. Some people’s skin can react to semen, so if you or your partner have allergies or sensitive skin, maybe do a little patch test first (yes, really). And don’t forget to moisturize after—because hydrated skin is happy skin.
Finally, respect the vibe. If anyone changes their mind mid-act, that’s totally fine. Consent can be taken back at any time, and that’s just part of keeping things fun and respectful. Remember: the goal is pleasure, not pressure.
So, yeah, it’s controversial, but isn’t that what makes it intriguing? Kinks live in the gray areas, and facials are no different. Whether it’s the thrill of breaking a taboo or the physical sensation, for those who enjoy it, it’s just another way to explore pleasure. And for those who don’t? Well, no one’s forcing you to get involved, and no one should. At the end of the day, it’s all about personal preference and mutual consent.
Exploring facials as part of kink culture can also be enhanced with the right accessories. Incorporating sex toys, like vibrators or massagers, can heighten pleasure and bring a new dimension to the experience. Adding water based lube can make play smoother, more comfortable, and even more enjoyable. Remember, toys and accessories are all about personalization—experimenting together to find what makes the experience most satisfying for both partners.
Also, check out our blogs on Understanding slow sex and what is a kink and its types to improve your knowledge of sexual health.
Written by Disha
Bio: Disha (she/her) believes she's half therapist because people spill their guts to her with ease. But for now, she's writing sassy pieces on the internet about all things fun and pop culture. With a flair for wit and a curious spirit, she is all about digging into the saucy details of human intimacy.
