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What does it mean to get KINKYYY?

What does it mean to get KINKYYY?

KINK! Does that word send shivers down your spine or make you want to roll your eyes in disdain? Maybe it's a mix of both. Perhaps it triggers memories of some past adventurous nights or makes you want to see some dreams for the future. However you react, it's clear that kink is a topic that sparks a wide range of responses. Just like any other controversial subject, kink often finds itself tangled up in misunderstanding and judgement.

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We'll unpack everything from what it actually means, to how you can navigate it with grace and respect, to debunking the myths surrounding what's considered "normal" in the realm of kink. 

But first, what is the meaning of kink?

Ever wondered what exactly makes something kinky? Well, according to the psychological researcher Samuel Hughes, kink is defined as “consensual, non-traditional sexual, sensual, and intimate behaviours such as sadomasochism, domination and submission, erotic roleplaying, fetishism, and erotic forms of discipline”. That is the textbook definition, but in simple words, it refers to a person’s unusual sexual interest or preference that might be considered outside the norms of the mainstream. Hughes even suggests that kinky identities can sprout as early as childhood – in some cases, even before the age of 10! People can develop kinky behaviour as children such as wanting to be captured while playing cops and thieves.

The term itself emerged from the mid-20th century English-speaking cultures, likely inspired by the notion of a "kink" as a twist or curl in something, particularly in a cord or rope. But kink isn't confined to leather-clad dungeons or Fifty Shades-esque scenarios anymore. 

Kink in evolving times

It's a complex assortment of sorts woven from centuries of human sexuality and evolving social attitudes. Research like the Kinsey Reports and modern studies from sexologists like Dr. Justin Lehmiller shed light on how kink intersects with identity, power dynamics, and pleasure. In today's world, Western societies are finally shaking off the taboo shackles, with more visibility and acceptance of kink in mainstream media and pop culture. Even in India, people are now owning their kinks and having open conversations about it. Take the first ever Kink Con for example, held in Goa last year. It was a celebration of queer perspectives, and the art of embracing one's desires unabashedly. Up until fairly recently, being kinky was considered a mental disorder. In fact, kink was only removed from the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders — the guidebook for psychologists and psychiatrists — in 2013.

Now, let's get to the important question: why do we indulge in these deliciously deviant desires? From childhood memories to an insatiable thirst for adventure, our kinks are as unique as we are. Clinical sexologist Rena McDaniel suggests that sometimes our brains just get a little creative, pairing up non-sexual objects or situations with a dash of spice. And let's not forget the thrill-seekers who revel in the world of dominance and submission, finding heightened satisfaction in their relationships. As psychologist Dr. Linda Blair eloquently puts it, sex is just adult playtime – a chance to escape the mundane and dive into the fun. 

Understanding kink isn't just about unravelling societal taboos. It's also about fostering acceptance and appreciation for the complexities of human sexuality. Research paints a revealing picture, with a staggering 86% of the population holding stigmatising beliefs about kink (source: NCBI). But beneath the surface lies a world of exploration and empowerment.

Psychologist Susan Wright's eye-opening survey showcases the mainstream appeal of kink, with bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, and an array of other delights captivating 75% to 90% of practitioners. It's time to shatter those misconceptions and celebrate the diversity within the kink community.

Writer Jillian Keenan, in this article, challenges us to view kink not as a mere preference, but as an integral part of our sexual identities. It's a reminder that our desires are valid and worthy of acceptance, regardless of societal norms. 

“Kink is often so fundamental to our sexual identities that it has to be, at least in some cases, an orientation … Our orientation is so deeply rooted that many of us feel we were born with it. For us, kink mixes language, ritual, trust, power, pleasure, pain, and identity in a way that can’t be captured by a stereotype … If you accept this definition, then my kink is my sexual orientation. It’s not my choice. It’s not my illness. And it's definitely not my hobby,” she writes. 

Types of Kinks

Now let's move on to the different types of Kinks. There are many! From bdsm as a kink to spanking, the world of kink is as diverse as it is daring. Whether you're into leather, role-playing, or voyeurism, there's a kink for every appetite. Let me list some of them for your reference, and remember, these are just some of the many kinks that are commonly found.

1.Bondage: The practice of restraining a partner for pleasure, exploring power dynamics through the art of restraint.

2. Domination and Submission (D/s): A dynamic where one partner takes control (dominant) while the other surrenders it (submissive), creating a power exchange.

4. Role-playing: Embracing different personas and scenarios for erotic exploration, allowing partners to indulge in fantasies and enact various roles.

5. Fetishism: A strong sexual attraction to specific objects, body parts, or materials, often serving as a focal point for arousal and desire.

6. Exhibitionism:  The thrill of being watched or observed while engaging in sexual activities, deriving pleasure from the act of being seen.

7. Voyeurism: Finding arousal in secretly observing others engaging in sexual activities, enjoying the excitement of watching without being detected.

Let me clarify a common misconception: fetishism and kink aren't one and the same. While fetishism involves specific attractions, kink encompasses a broader spectrum of unconventional practices. Understanding these distinctions promotes clarity and respect within sexual exploration.

Not just these, incorporating sex toys into sexual play can be considered a kink in itself, often referred to as ‘toy play’ or ‘toy fetishism.’ This involves using various types of sex toys, such as vibrators, dildos, bondage gear, or role-playing props, to enhance pleasure, explore fantasies, and add excitement to your playtime. Toy play can range from simple experimentation with a single toy to elaborate scenes involving a variety of toys and accessories. Whether it's solo play or shared with a partner, indulging in toy play can ignite new levels of pleasure and intimacy in the bedroom. You can check out some of our products like the Taco vibrating stroker massager, the Candy personal massager or the Tie BDSM scarf using which you can experiment for your bedroom adventures.

Be safe, have fun

Some researchers have also suggested that exploring kink can have positive effects on mental well-being, providing a release of endorphins and a sense of empowerment for many individuals. However, it's essential to prioritise safety and consent, especially for those with a history of trauma or abuse.

With great pleasure, also comes great responsibilities. There are certain things that we would advise you to be careful about if you wanna explore your kinks. 

  • First up, communication is key – always have a thorough chat about desires, boundaries, and safe words. 
  • Safety gear is your sexy sidekick – think condoms, gloves, and any sex toys you need. 
  • Also, cleanliness isn't just next to godliness, it's hotness – keep your sex toys squeaky clean. 
  • Respect is the name of the game – honour each other's limits and never push without consent. 
  • Lastly, aftercare is your cuddly encore – check in, cuddle up, and make sure everyone's feeling cherished post-play. 

So people, whether your kink stems from a specific moment or remains shrouded in mystery, remember this: as long as it's safe, sane, and consensual, there's no shame in indulging your desires. After all, life is too short for vanilla when you can have sprinkles, cherries, and a whole range of toys waiting to make your fantasies a reality. Stay safe, stay sassy, and indulge responsibly! And if you're curious about exploring your desires further, why not delve into our blog on 'What is masturbation?' for insightful information and tips

FAQs :

Q. What is a "kink"?

Kink spices up the bedroom with a little extra flavour.  

Q.How can someone explore their own kinks in a safe and consensual manner?

Explore your desires with open communication, boundaries, and a safety net – always ask before indulging.

Q.Are kinks considered normal?

A.Trust me, what's "normal" is as varied as a box of chocolates. 

Q. Can kinks change over time?

Absolutely! There are no hard and fast rules. 

Q. Is there a difference between kink and fetish?

Think of kink as the whole buffet, and fetish as your favourite dish – both delicious, just different.

Written by Disha 

Bio: Disha (she/her) believes she's half therapist because people spill their guts to her with ease. But for now, she's writing sassy pieces on the internet about all things fun and pop culture. With a flair for wit and a curious spirit, she is all about digging into the saucy details of human intimacy. 

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