Guide to Masturbation for Women & Vulva-Owners

Guide to Masturbation for Women & Vulva-Owners

Masturbation for girls and vulva owners is the main game for a reason – it’s so reliable and completely drama free. It's your own personal party, crafted exactly the way you like it. You’re the DJ, spinning tunes that make your body sing and dance. No need to worry about catering to anyone else's song requests – it's all about you, baby!

But here's the thing: despite how wonderful this self-love party sounds, many of us still don't really get how girls masturbate. Why? Because we've been fed this BS idea that self-pleasure is only for the dudes. Well, guess what? Today, we're throwing that idea out the window, and maybe tossing a few pillows while we're at it. Let's break down those barriers (read : beds) once and for all. 

Understanding Female Masturbation:

There’s one thing about masturbation that we all agree on - it feels freakin’ awesome! And that’s exactly how it makes you feel about your body too. It’s like writing a love letter to your own self. The more you touch yourself and feel joy, the more you fall in love with yourself. It’s a confidence boost on steroids.

Okay, that sounds great. But how do girls and vulva owners masturbate? Women’s pleasure is like a choose-your-own-adventure book. There's no one-size-fits-all approach, and that's the beauty of it. 

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Masturbation is your crash course in self-discovery, helping you figure out what makes your heart race and what's just meh. This helps you guide your partner better, making your bedroom adventures top notch. And that’s just the quality side of the show. But wait, there's more. The more you rev up your libido, the hungrier it gets – in the best way possible. Translation? More action in the bedroom, leveling up the quantity game too.

And can we talk about the perks of masturbation for girls and vulva owners ? No STD worries, no stress about unwanted pregnancies – just pure, unadulterated pleasure on your own terms. Talk about a win-win!

Yes - I hear what you’re thinking, loud and clear. But this ain't the stuff they teach us in Sex Ed 101! Well, we've been fed this whole narrative that as girls, exploring our own bodies is like opening Pandora's box – leading straight to the ‘bad’ desire for sex or, heaven forbid, casual sex! Or worse yet, we should be on the hunt for a husband and saving ourselves for him and him alone. Oh, and let's not forget the classic: it'll stretch out our vagina. Babygirl, it’s just a load of cultural mumbo-jumbo. That guilt trip you're on is purely society’s creation. Nothing is backing any of that noise. 

Techniques for Female Masturbation: 

Now that you know that you should be masturbating, how do girls masturbate is still a question we haven’t answered. So, let's break down the art of self-pleasure, starting with the different masturbation female techniques:

Clitoral Masturbation: You can use your fingers, hands or a trust toy like our LIT suction massager to touch, rub and stroke your clitoris. This is a form of external stimulation. A fun fact here : most vulva owners orgasm due to clitoris stimulation, and not penetration. It's like your favorite girl's go-to move for a reason!

Vaginal Masturbation: Time to dive deep – literally. This technique involves using your fingers or a toy for penetration like our Flex internal massager. Think rubbing or stroking in and out, exploring every nook and cranny. It's a blast, but reaching climax this way can be a bit tricky. So, instead of stressing about the finish line, just enjoy the ride for what it is.

The Combo: Why settle for one when you can have the best of both worlds? Blend clitoral and vaginal stimulation for a mind-blowing experience that'll leave you seeing stars. It’s a recipe for pure ecstasy and a guaranteed good time.

Butt-gasm, Baby: Now, I get it – this one's not everyone's cup of tea. But hey, if you're curious, why not give it a whirl? Start slow with a finger or a slim sex toy, and if you're feeling bold, work your way up. Who knows? You might just discover a whole new world of pleasure back there.

Alright, now that we've got the basics of how do women masturbate, let's talk about the little extras that'll take your solo play from good to oh-my-god-amazing:
  • Don't limit yourself to the obvious spots – your inner thighs, ears, nipples, and neck are all fair game. Explore those erogenous zones, boss babe.
  • Sex toys are your best friends when it comes to boosting your masturbation game. Find the ones that tickle your fancy and have a fling with each of them. Just remember to give 'em a good cleanse before and after – hygiene first.
  • Set the scene, my friend. Light some candles, draw a luxurious bath, and cue up a sexy playlist. You know how to seduce your partner, so why not treat yourself to the same level of indulgence?
  • Oh, and don't skimp on the water based lube – the wetter, the better, am I right?
  • Take. Your. Time. There's no rush here, savor each touch.
  • What you fantasize about is a huge part of the process of masturbation, so don’t be
  • Let your imagination run wild. Your fantasies are a crucial part of the masturbation process, so don't be shy about exploring them. Whether you're cooking up a steamy scenario or revisiting an old favorite, let your imagination run wild.

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Exploring Masturbation Positions For Girls

We've now got the masturbation female techniques down pat, how about adding a little extra oomph to your solo play with some body-rockin' masturbation positions for women?

  1. Dive into a wet sesh : So, we're all familiar with the classic bed-bound escapades, but why not switch things up with a splash? Picture this: you, in the shower, with some waterproof toys. I mean, the wetter the better, remember?

  2. Get your slither on : Lie on your stomach and grind your clit against a hand or a vibrating toy beneath you. The weight of your body adds extra friction, and the back-and-forth motion strokes the shaft of your clit as it gets going.

  3. Let’s take this UP : Grab that lube, lie on your belly, and let your hands work their magic. Now, pop a pillow, or better still, UP pillow for some added elevation. It's like unlocking a whole new realm of sensation. And hey, if you're really feeling it, why not try both hands at once? Double the pleasure, double the fun.

  4. What’s between them knees : Start by getting cozy on the bed or another cushy surface, kneeling with your upper body upright. Now, gently ease open your knees to a position that feels oh-so-right. Need some extra support? No problem! Lean back or forward, maybe grab onto a headboard or a handy wall. And here's the fun part: feel free to mix things up! Change angles, bring in multiple toys, and let your imagination run wild. The possibilities are endless, darling.

  5. Open up, my love : Time to take a seat – literally! Grab yourself a comfy armless chair and settle in. Tuck those feet around the legs and spread 'em wide, baby. This provides much more access to all of the bits between your legs, and when you climax, you can brace your legs against the chair legs.

  6. Something on the side too, pls : Get cozy on your side, grab your favorite toy or trusty hands, and slide them between your legs. Once you've got those thighs squeezed together just right, you'll find it hard to resist staying in this oh-so-pleasurable position. Who needs to get up when you're having this much fun, am I right?

  7. See the sexy you are : Time for a little self-reflection – literally! Find yourself a full-length mirror and get comfy. Grab that big tube of lube and let the fun begin. Coat your body – your breasts, belly, inner thighs, and vulva – with that slippery goodness, and start exploring. Pinch, squeeze, pull, tug, rub – whatever floats your boat. Pay close attention to what really revs your engine and gets you hot and bothered.

This is just Monica’s seven, you have countless more ways to go!

    Frequency of Female Masturbation

    Self-pleasure isn’t about statistics. How often do girls masturbate is totally up to what feels right for them. Some might be at it five times a week, while others might take a rain check more often – and that's all cool beans. It's about finding your own rhythm and embracing what works for you.

    Now, onto the million-dollar question: when does it become a tad too much? Well, honey, if your solo sessions start crashing your work deadlines, bailing on your social calendar, and running the show 24/7 in your pretty head, it might be time to tap the brakes. Going overboard can mess with your focus and even bring unwanted guests like lower back pain to the party. In rare cases, it could even lead to physical desensitization, which means that you need more stimulation to feel the same pleasure and arousal– not the vibe we're going for, right? So, if things start feeling a bit out of whack, don't hesitate to reach out for a helping hand. There's zero shame in seeking support when you need it. You got this!

    But are you wondering if masturbation is inherently good or bad? Well, like many aspects of human behavior, especially when it comes to sexuality, the answer isn't black and white. You should check out our blog on is masturbation good for you to learn more about it.

    Girls (and vulva owners), while we talk about what excessive masturbation brings to the table, let’s not discredit its perks - better sleep, torching calories, waving goodbye to menstrual cramps and help with your cardiovascular health. And Aunt Sassy wants you to cash in all of them!

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    Now that I’ve given you so many reasons for doin’ this, let me leave you with my favorite wayyy. Everytime I sit with LIT or Salty (wand massager), I let the intensity build with every pulse. Now, when we are right about to climax, almost at the peak - we usually prefer keeping the same momentum going, right? But as soon as I am almost near FUCK, I’M GOING TO CUM, I change the vibration mode to a new pattern. I repeat this until I can’t take it anymore. What’s your favorite way?

    Frequently Asked Questions On How Women Masturbate:

    1. How do women masturbate?

    Alright, let's break it down. When it comes to solo play, women and vulva owners typically focus on three main areas: the clitoris, the vagina, and yes, even the anal region. They get hands-on, experimenting with touching, rubbing, stroking, or stimulating these zones in whatever ways feel most amazing to them. It's about exploring and finding what hits the spot juuust right.

    2. What are some common masturbation positions for women and vulva owners?

    So, while lying on your back is a go-to position for many women and vulva owners during solo play, let's talk about a different setup. In Indian households, where privacy can be hard to come by, many women find themselves seeking refuge in the bathroom. There, they often sit up, legs spread wide, making the most of the limited privacy they have. They find creative solutions and make the most of the space available for some quality "me" time.

    3. How often do girls masturbate?

    The stats on this can vary depending on demographics. Many girls and vulva owners haven't given it a shot yet due to conditioning. However, among those who have, quite a few masturbate two or three times a week. But hey, there's no right or wrong number here! It's all about what feels good for you, without any pressure or judgment.

    4. Can girls masturbate if they've never done it before?

    Masturbation isn't just natural, it's downright healthy. It's never too late to give it a shot for the first time. Sure, you might feel a bit awkward or guilty at first, but trust me, you can totally shake off those feelings.

    5. Is it normal to feel guilty or ashamed about female masturbation?

    Feeling guilty or ashamed is totally understandable. From day one, we've been fed this idea that women touching themselves is a big no-no. It's no wonder we end up feeling ashamed or guilty without even realizing it. But together, it's now time to ditch this shame and start owning our own pleasure.

    About the Author :

    Hemali (she/her) is an explorer of the realms of sexuality, intimacy, and dating. She talks endlessly about the evolving landscape of feminist narratives on the big screen and makes you reanalyze the portrayal of women in mainstream culture. If you're looking for alternative conversation starters, take your pick from: Biryani, Art Fairs, or Spoken Word Poetry.

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