I know whatchu think of oral sex girlie. On the days when you don’t have a condom, you feel, “Oh, let’s just make out and keep it till third base” - that’s gonna be safe and we’ll have fun too!
Well, no. Oral sex might seem like the chill, carefree little sibling of going all the way sex, but it’s naughty in its own way too. And today, I’ll tell you all the risks with oral sex:
The Hidden Dangers of Oral Sex
You might think you’re avoiding the STI and infections drama, cause hey, fellatio risks are zero! Newsflash: these infections don’t really care how you’re making things steamy. They’ll hitch a ride no matter what.
Whether you’re the giver or the receiver, there’s always a risk with oral sex. Keep reading, ‘cause we’re about to break down how these sneaky infections work.
Risk Factors of Receiving Unprotected Oral Sex :
While it may feel like you’re the one in the driver’s seat, there is still a risk with oral sex You’re exposed to everything that your partner can pass via their amazing mouth to your genitals.
- Chlamydia : This STI is sneaky because it often doesn’t show symptoms. You could be infected and not even know it. Symptoms (if and when they show up) can include abnormal discharge or pain during urination.
- Gonorrhea : Also known as “the clap,” gonorrhea can infect your genitals if you’re receiving. You might experience a sore throat, pain during urination, or abnormal discharge. It’ll actually become a walk of shame, so be careful.
- Herpes : Oral herpes (cold sores) can also spread to the genitals through oral sex. This means that if your partner has a cold sore, you could end up with genital herpes - even if they’re not showing symptoms at the time. Yeah, herpes doesn’t care if your partner “feels fine.”
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Syphilis : This STI can cause sores in your genitals, and again happens via someone’s mouth down on you. If left untreated, syphilis can lead to more serious complications down the road.
And let’s not forget HPV (human papillomavirus), which can be transmitted through oral sex and, in some cases, even lead to oral or throat cancer. Now, just read that one more time : it’s not oral sex directly causing throat cancer - but the spread of HPV via someone’s mouth. The chances of this happening are really low - but not zilch. As your bestie, I wouldn’t want you to take this chance, so please!
And that’s not even an exhaustive list of risks with oral sex- there are also more STIs like Hepatitis B that we’ve not even gone into. So even if you’re thinking, “I’m just lying here, what’s the oral sex risk?” - there’s plenty. If your partner has one of these infections in their mouth, you’re on the receiving end of more than just pleasure.
Risk Factors of Giving Unprotected Oral Sex :
Now, let’s flip the script. If you’re the one going downtown without protection, you’re still at risk with oral sex. Giving oral sex exposes your mouth to whatever infections your partner may have going on in their nether regions.
This is simply the difference of whether it’ll come to you via their mouth or their genitals. You’ll still be up against gonorrhea, chlamydia, herpes, HPV and everything else we spoke about. Plus, there’s the possibility of yeast infections. It’s not as serious as other STIs, but having white patches in your mouth that burn isn’t exactly a good time.
And babe : it’s not just about you. Your partner is equally at risk with oral sex. Yes, I know it’s not your intent to do it to anyone in the world - but it never is anyone’s intent. So, for the security of both, do whatttt I’ll tell you in just a bit.
Are You Really Safe? Common Misconceptions About Oral Sex Risks :
Well, now that I’ve already told you about how your idea of “There are no risks with oral sex” is a myth, what are the other ones you’re harboring?
"If my partner doesn’t have symptoms, they’re probably STI-free."
Wrong again. A lot of STIs don’t show symptoms, or they show up really late. Your partner could look as fresh as a daisy and still be carrying an infection.
"Using protection during oral sex is so weird."
Sure, it might not feel as mainstream as using condoms for penetrative sex, but seriously - would you rather have a two-second convo about protection or deal with an STI? That’s what I thought.
PS : I really hope that porn will catch up and make using protection during oral sex the norm soon. Imagine how much easier it’d be to talk about if we saw it more on-screen!
Ways to Protect Yourself: Practicing Safe Oral Sex :
Safe oral sex might not be the hottest convo starter for you, but you gotta say bye to surprise STIs. So, let’s get into some solid protection strategies that'll keep you safe while keeping it spicy!
Communicate with Your Partner
It’s tempting to skip this conversation, especially if you’re caught up in the heat of the moment, but trust me, it’s the only way to avoid the risks of receiving unprotected oral.
First, lead with your own health status. Kick things off with, “Hey, I got tested recently, and everything came back clear. How about you?” This keeps the vibe relaxed and mutual - like you’re both in this together, looking out for each other.
Remember - be upfront, but compassionate. If you’ve noticed any changes or been with someone new, honesty is the best policy. Try, “I’ve been feeling a bit off lately, so I’m going to get tested. I think it’s smart for both of us to check in.” Again, you’re not just looking out for yourself, but showing you care about them too.
My personal favorite way is to go get tested together! It might sound odd, but turning it into a shared experience can strengthen your relationship. Plus, you’re both making safety a top priority, which is undeniably hot.
And babe, if, by any chance, your partner dodges the topic of fellatio risks or refuses to get tested - Major red flag! You deserve someone who values your well-being as much as you do. Don’t settle for less.
Flavored Condoms for Oral
Flavored condoms aren’t just a cute add-on to make oral sex more fun, they’re your first line of defense against STIs. When you’re going down on a guy, using a condom adds a barrier that can protect you from so many possible infections.
But why flavored? Well, regular condoms don’t exactly scream yum. Enter flavors like strawberry, chocolate, vanilla, and even mint! Not only do they make things more palatable, but they add a little excitement to your routine.
These babies are thin enough that they won’t dull the experience for him, but they keep things deliciously safe for you. And the best part? You can find them in almost any pharmacy or easily order online. So why not keep a box on hand to make sure your next oral adventure is both exciting and protected?
Dental Dams
Dental dams are the unsung heroes of safe oral sex. Think of them as a thin sheet of latex that acts as a barrier between your mouth and your partner’s genitals or anus. This simple barrier can help prevent all unhappy surprise visits.
And yes, they come in fun flavors like vanilla and cherry to make things feel a little more playful. The best part? They’re super easy to use. Just lay the sheet over your partner’s vulva or anus and dive in!
Get Tested Regularly
Listen up : just because you feel fine doesn’t mean you’re all good. STIs are sneaky little devils that can hide out for months - without showing a single symptom. That means you could be unknowingly passing them on. The only way to be absolutely sure you're in the clear? Regular testing, baby!
If you’re sexually active (whether it’s oral, vaginal, or anal), especially with multiple partners, getting tested should be as routine as hitting the gym or grabbing your morning coffee. It's the real glow-up move, because knowing your status is the ultimate power play for taking control of your sexual health.
And guess what? STI tests are quick, painless, and won’t break the bank. Some clinics even offer rapid tests, meaning you can get your results in as little as 24 hours. No need to stress or wait around - get in, get tested, and get back to living your best life!
Vaccinations: Especially the HPV Vaccine
Vaccines aren’t just for keeping you from getting the flu - there’s one that's a super important vaccine for sexual health too: the HPV vaccine. Human papillomavirus (HPV) is one of the most common STIs out there, and while many strains are harmless, some can lead to genital warts and even cancer (Yep, it’s the same one we spoke about before)
But here’s the great news: the HPV vaccine is like your bodyguard, blocking the dangerous strains that could lead to cancer. It’s super effective, and while it’s usually given to teens and young adults, it’s not too late to jump on board if you missed out. You can still get vaccinated up to age 45! So, hit up your doc and take control of your sexual wellness like the boss you are.
Oral Hygiene for the Win
Okay, this one might not be technically about protection, but hear me out: keeping your mouth clean is a low-key part of safe oral sex. If you’ve got open sores, cuts, or gum issues, it’s way easier for infections to sneak through. Keeping your mouth in tip-top shape with regular brushing and flossing isn’t just about fresh breath—it’s about keeping those pesky infections at bay.
And here’s a super quick tip again: avoid brushing your teeth immediately before or after oral sex. Why? Brushing can cause tiny microtears in your gums, which creates a fast-track for STIs to enter your bloodstream. Instead, reach for some mouthwash to freshen up - safer, smarter, and still minty fresh.
STI Testing and Treatment: What to Do If You Think You’ve Been Exposed :
STIs don’t always show up with flashing neon signs, but there are some sneaky red flags you should keep an eye on. Got a sore throat, unusual discharge, or pain when you pee? Painful sores or blisters around your mouth or down there? If things feel off - whether it's down below or in your throat - it’s time for a check-up.
But hey, even if you’re symptom-free and just feelin’ a bit nervous (we’ve all been there), getting tested is always a smart move. Here’s how to handle it like a pro:
- Get tested ASAP : Whether you had a risky encounter or you’re just being responsible, testing is essential. Most STIs can be detected with a quick swab or blood test.
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Tell your partner(s) : If your test comes back positive, you’ve gotta break the news. Awkward? Maybe. But honesty is the best policy when it comes to sexual health. It gives your partner(s) the chance to get tested too. Plus, it’s a sign of respect and care for their health.
- Seek treatment ASAP : Don’t ghost your diagnosis! Many STIs are treatable or manageable with medication. The sooner you act, the better. Ignoring it could lead to complications down the road, so get on it fast. You’ve got this.
- Plan for the future : Make sexual health a priority: use protection, get tested regularly, and keep the lines of communication open with your partner(s). Sexual health isn’t a one-time thing, it’s a lifestyle move that keeps everyone safe and happy.
Bestie, I hope that either you’re now running to get a dental dam or will be opening a condom even before oral. I always wish you great steamy moments - and also an afterglow that doesn’t have an STI as a plus one.
Safe sex doesn't mean boring sex! Spice things up with sex toys, lubes, and vibrators. These fun additions let you explore new sensations while reducing the need for risky encounters. Whether it’s a sleek vibrator or flavored lube to enhance oral play, incorporating these tools can make intimacy more enjoyable and safer. Pro tip: Clean your toys thoroughly and use them responsibly for a stress-free, steamy experience!
Also, check out our blogs on Understanding slow sex and what is a kink and its types to improve your knowledge of sexual health.
FAQs on Dangers of Oral sex :
What are the dangers of unprotected oral sex?
Unprotected oral sex can transmit STIs like herpes, gonorrhea, and syphilis - truly a big ouch!
Can you get STIs from oral sex?
Yep, STIs like HPV, herpes and so many others can hitch a ride through oral sex.
What is the risk of receiving unprotected oral sex?
Receiving it unprotected means that all kinds of STIs can hop from your partner's mouth to your genitals.
Are there risks involved with giving oral sex?
Giving oral isn’t risk-free either. Your partner’s genitals can pass all its infections to your mouth. Better safe than sorry.
How can I protect myself during oral sex?
Dental dams and flavored condoms make protection fun and fab during oral sex, reducing the risk of STIs while keeping things spicy!
Is oral sex safer than penetrative sex?
Oral sex can be less risky than penetrative sex, but don’t be fooled - STIs can still spread, so protection is always your sparkle shield.
Can oral sex lead to cancer?
Oral sex itself - no. But HPV can spread via the mouth, which can then lead to throat cancer. It’s rare, but not zero risk.
About the Author :
Hemali (she/her) is an explorer of the realms of sexuality, intimacy, and dating. She talks endlessly about the evolving landscape of feminist narratives on the big screen and makes you reanalyze the portrayal of women in mainstream culture. If you're looking for alternative conversation starters, take your pick from: Biryani, Art Fairs, or Spoken Word Poetry.
