Winters are coming, and so are dullness, gloom, and boredom. While the holiday season and all the jazz that comes with it can be fun for many, some people struggle with keeping up the spark, especially with their partners. And it’s not just about sex. Studies have shown that winters bring significant physical and psychological changes to your body, affecting your mood, drive, performance, and even how you generally feel about your day.
Take for instance, Seasonal affective disorder (SAD), which affects millions of people every year, is a mental condition that can cause a lowered sex drive during the colder months. Then there’s also winter loneliness, where people tend to stay bundled in their beds for hours on end… without ever wanting to move. I mean, when you have a cozy blanket, who even wants to step out? Sure, you may like the body heat of your partner, but the effort of trying to get that? Ugh, one has to step out of their own blanket first to meet the other… and then you just toss the idea away and keep lying in your cocoon.
But don’t worry. While winter might try its best to sabotage your intimacy game, we’re here to help you beat the cold and heat things up. Here are some handy tips to bring back the spark, the sizzle, and the sweetness to your relationship.
Aromatherapy: Your New Love Potion
Essential oils can work wonders for those mood-killers that creep in during winter. Aromatherapy has been proven to support better sleep, reduce stress, and even promote attraction and connection. A 2021 study showed that participants exposed to lavender essential oil while they slept reported better sleep quality and more daytime vigor. And better sleep means better moods and energy—which can only lead to more intimacy!
Certain essential oils also have aphrodisiac qualities. Scents pass through the olfactory system, influencing the limbic system, the part of your brain that drives emotions and sexual desire. Oils like rose, jasmine, and sandalwood can boost feelings of happiness, self-confidence, and love. Plus, if you associate a particular scent with date nights, it can become your go-to memory trigger for romance. Personally, Ylang Ylang, Rose, Jasmine, Lavender, orange, and nutmeg are my favourite winter fragrances.
Pro tip: Dab a few drops on sensual spots like the back of your ear or neck. Or, how about a steamy bath together with essential oils? Set the mood with dim lights, your favorite romantic tunes, and a diffuser filling the air with luscious scents. Trust us, there’s no magic quite like the combo of aromatic oils, soft music, and a cozy cuddle session.
Explore New Toys
Winter is the perfect excuse to stay in bed longer, and what better way to make use of that time than by exploring some new toys together? Experimenting can bring you closer and help you understand each other’s bodies on a deeper level.
Take Thrill, for example, our dual remote-control massager that can be a lot of fun to play with. Imagine lying in bed under your respective blankets, with one partner holding the remote while the other enjoys the vibrations. Or, consider Taco, a stroker with ultimate vibrations, designed for men. Add in DTF water-based lubricant to keep things smooth and exciting. The best part? There’s no rush. Winter gives you all the time in the world to explore, experiment, and connect.
Cozy Game Nights
Too lazy for a fancy date night? Skip the cold and opt for a cozy game night instead. Make yourselves some hot chocolate (or your drink of choice), throw on your comfiest pajamas, and dive into some adult question-and-answer games. You’d be surprised how fun and revealing these can be! Check out our latest blog for some inspiration.
Check out online games or card decks designed to spark intimate conversations. Want to up the ante? Try sensory play. Heat a spoon with a candle and gently place it on your partner’s erogenous zones, alternating with ice cubes for a tantalizing temperature play. If you’re feeling adventurous, try cold metal spoons or even slightly warm wax (but always with enthusiastic consent). Add a dash of drama and watch the magic happen.
Focus on Quality Time Together
Sometimes, intimacy isn’t about grand gestures but simple, heartfelt moments. In winter, it’s easy to blame the weather for a lack of connection, but if you both make an effort, there’s so much you can do together. Even mundane activities can become romantic if approached with the right attitude.
How about cooking a hot, sizzling pasta dish together while dancing to your favorite songs in the kitchen? Or binge-watching a beloved TV series with caramel popcorn? Maybe just sit by a bonfire, sipping mulled wine, and have a heart-to-heart conversation. It doesn’t always have to be about meticulously planned date nights. Sometimes, the best moments are the unplanned ones.
And remember those lockdown days during COVID? Despite being cooped up at home, people still found ways to connect and thrive. Winter’s no different. This season, focus on things that bring you closer instead of complaining about what could have been.
Get Active (Yes, Even in Winter!)
Physical activity might sound counterintuitive when all you want to do is hibernate, but moving your body—even just a little—can significantly boost your mood and energy. Try yoga together. Not only is it a great way to stay fit, but certain poses can promote intimacy and relaxation. If yoga’s not your thing, bundle up and take a brisk evening walk holding hands. The cold air will make you appreciate the warmth of your partner even more.
Winter-Proof your Bedroom
Your bedroom is your sanctuary, so why not make it winter-proof and romance-ready? Invest in warm, luxurious bedding. Add fairy lights, plush rugs, and soft blankets to create a dreamy vibe. A heated blanket? Game-changer. And don’t forget the power of scents—a diffuser with essential oils can keep your room smelling divine and inviting.
To elevate the aesthetics, try some DIY decor. Maybe fill mason jars with fairy lights or pinecones for that pretty glow. You could also create a photo wall with your favorite memories together, using twinkling string lights as the perfect backdrop. And don’t underestimate the power of candles—arrange them in clusters for a warm, flickering ambiance that screams cozy romance.
At the end of the day, winter is just another season. It’s what you make of it that counts. So instead of dreading the cold, embrace it as an opportunity to grow closer. Light a fire—both literally and metaphorically—and focus on the little things that make your relationship special.
So, what’s your favorite way to get closer to your partner during winter? Share your tips on our Instagram channel and help us add to the list! Who knows, your idea might just inspire someone else to heat up their love life this season. Stay cozy, stay connected, and most importantly, stay in love!
This winter, spice things up with new sex toys like vibrator massagers and strokers, perfect for cozying up in bed. Pair them with water-based lube like DTF for smooth, exciting sensations that will keep the spark alive all season long.
Also, check out our blogs on Understanding slow sex and what is a kink and its types to improve your knowledge of sexual health.
Written by Disha
Bio: Disha (she/her) believes she's half therapist because people spill their guts to her with ease. But for now, she's writing sassy pieces on the internet about all things fun and pop culture. With a flair for wit and a curious spirit, she is all about digging into the saucy details of human intimacy.
