So, you’re curious about bringing toys into the bedroom? First off, good call! Sex toys aren’t about replacing your partner; they’re about adding variety, making things spicier, and giving your intimacy a little glow-up. Think of them like fried onions on a steaming plate of biryani: you can live without them, sure, but why would you? Here are five ideas to ease in, plus how something like the Fiddle Finger Massager can be especially useful.

How Sex Toys Enhance Partnered Play

Forget the idea that toys are “for solo only.” They’re incredible for shared stimulation, giving you new rhythms, sensations, and ways to sync up.

• Consistency: Fingers sometimes cramp, mouths sometimes tire. A toy like Fiddle? Nine vibration modes that don’t flake mid-session.

• Target practice: From the clit to nipples to the perineum: toys can get more precise than fumbling hands.

• Novelty factor: New toys = new anticipation. And anticipation is half the fun.

• Shared stimulation: Toys aren’t just for solo use! They allow both partners to experience pleasure together. They add variety to touch, pacing, and sensation.

Toys as Accessories, Not Replacements

No one’s stealing anyone’s job here. Toys are sidekicks, not rivals.

• Enhance the moment: Use toys alongside kissing, caressing, or penetration.

• Amplify, don’t overshadow: Just like a filter can sharpen a picture, toys can sharpen pleasure, but your partner is still the main event.

• Communicate: Seriously, talk about it. Ask: too strong? slower? more to the left? Feedback makes it hotter, not awkward.

Putting on a Show for Your Partner

This is where it gets cheeky.

• Set the mood: dim lights, candle glow, your sexiest Spotify playlist.

• Tease: Try using Fiddle on yourself while your partner watches: eye contact, moans, and a little showmanship.

• Props: Lingerie, stockings, heels. The toy becomes part of the performance. Trust us, nothing screams confidence like “watch me make myself feel good.”

How to Use Fiddle Together (Intercourse / Fingers / Partnered Play)

Fiddle isn’t your average vibe. It’s wearable (slides onto your finger with a comfy grip), discreet, waterproof, and whisper-quiet (a little louder than a whisper, but definitely roommate-proof). Plus, it’s made from 100% body-safe, medical-grade silicone — because your bits deserve nothing less. Here are some ideas:

During Intercourse

• One partner wears Fiddle and uses it on the clit during penetration. The design frees up hands for multitasking without interrupting the moment.

• Use gentle pressure first, then try pulsing or vibration patterns (one of the 9 modes) to match the rhythm of intercourse or slow down/speed up.

• Combine with lubricant (e.g., the DTF water-based lube from the bundle) to reduce friction, increase glide, and make external contact more comfortable.

Finger Play & Foreplay Warm-ups

• Use Fiddle during caressing, kissing, or touching before moving into intercourse. It can warm things up, build arousal, and make transitions smoother.

• Use multiple fingers: e.g., one finger with Fiddle externally on the clitoris, another finger inserted (if both are comfortable).

Switch Roles/ Tease

• The receiving partner could wear Fiddle and guide the stimulation, or both partners could take turns.

• Use it in view or out of view: teasing builds anticipation.

Sensory Play/ Slow Build

• Use lower intensity settings, explore slow, deliberate movements: lingering at the head, the frenulum, labia, clitoral hood.

• Increase intensity gradually or switch to a more intense mode when both are ready.

Aftercare & Cleaning

• After play: clean Fiddle with a massager wash (like Neat) or mild soap+warm water; use the storage pouch.

• Charge it fully so it’s ready next time.

Also note, there are a couple of bundles (Fiddle It Well Pair, i.e., Fiddle + DTF lube) which include a water-based personal lubricant (“DTF”) to make the experience smoother.

Dos & Don’ts: Tips for a Smooth Start

• Try it with zero pressure — laugh if it feels awkward. That’s intimacy, too.

• Always use water-based lube. (Silicone or oil-based = toy damage = tears.)

• Clean before and after with a toy wash or mild soap + water.

• Don’t force internal use — Fiddle is for external play only.

• Don’t forget to charge it. Nothing kills the mood faster than “low battery.”

Conclusion

Couples sex toys aren’t a threat to intimacy. They’re an upgrade. Whether you’re curious about experimenting, want to take foreplay up a notch, or just want something extra during penetration, the key is communication and playfulness.

Start with something versatile and easy, like Fiddle. Slip it on, lube it up, and let your hands (and toys) do the talking. After all, there’s no “right way” — just whatever feels ridiculously good for the two of you.

Explore, play, and discover what feels best — with the right sex toys, couples massagers, and silky lubes, even the simplest moments can turn into something unforgettable

About the Author

Madhu (she/her) has been an avid reader of all things spicy since her childhood. She writes sassy blog posts and listicles now so that others may benefit from her wholly inappropriate, wholly informative tastes, too.