If you aren't experimenting, sex can quickly become monotonous, especially when you think pleasure is confined to clit or genital stimulation. I was blissfully ignorant of this for the longest time. For me, nipples just weren't the right spot—I never felt anything there, so I never encouraged my partner to explore that area. Then one day, I tried the Salty Vibrator on them, and oh boy, was I in for a fascinating ride. Could nipple stimulation really feel THIS good? It was as if a new door had opened, revealing the incredible intricacies of the human body. The joy of discovering a new facet of your sexuality is just incomparable.
So, if you’re still unaware of the kind of pleasure and excitement nipple stimulation can bring, brace yourself. You’ll learn a great deal from this blog. And who knows, by the time you end up reading it, you will find your hand reaching out to explore that joy ;)
Is it for me?
Now the question is, does it work for everyone? Well, you’ll never know until you give it a try.
Many people think nipple play is just a warm-up act, a prelude to the “main event”. But here’s the thing: nipples can be a main event all on their own. They’re packed with nerve endings - hundreds of them - making them super sensitive and capable of delivering mind-blowing orgasms. So, forget the notion that nipples are just an appetiser, they can very well be the entrée.
Another myth? That only women can enjoy nipple orgasms. Wrong! Men, you have got the goods too! Male nipples are just as sensitive and capable of inducing pleasure. It is high time everyone started treating nipples with the respect they deserve.
The science behind it
Let’s get a bit nerdy here. When nipples are stimulated, they send signals to the same part of the brain that is activated during genital stimulation. That’s right, the same pleasure powerhouses light up, creating that intense, euphoric feeling.
Dr. Laura Berman, a sex therapist and educator, mentions that nipple orgasms are possible due to the strong connection between the nipples and the genital sensory cortex in the brain. She emphasises that nipple stimulation can sometimes lead to an orgasm without direct genital stimulation.
Even the Kamasutra - the OG ancient wisdom guide to all things sex and sensuality, suggests that nipple stimulation as an art form, that such acts not only ignite desire but also deepen emotional intimacy between partners. The ancient wisdom of the Kamasutra recognises that the journey to pleasure involves multiple facets of the body, and the nipples are key players in this erotic symphony.
Why have nipples been ignored?
Despite its tempting potential, the nipple orgasm has long been the unsung hero of sexual pleasure. Historically, the focus has been on more obvious erogenous zones, leaving nipples in the shadows. Cultural norms and taboos have played their part—while the ancient Kamasutra from India hinted at the erotic appeal of nipples, many societies avoided discussing this openly. For instance, Victorian-era England, known for its prudish stance on sexuality, treated breasts primarily as symbols of motherhood rather than objects of sexual desire. Public discourse on sexual pleasure was limited, and anything outside the realm of procreation was often considered taboo.
In many Eastern cultures, discussions about sex remained within the confines of marital duty and procreation, leaving little room for exploring the full spectrum of sexual pleasure. Anecdotes from older generations often reveal a lack of knowledge and open conversation about such intimate details. For instance, many women in conservative societies grew up without ever learning about the pleasure potential of their bodies, including their nipples. This lack of awareness was passed down, creating a cycle of ignorance.
Even in more liberal societies, mainstream conversations around sexual pleasure have often sidelined nipple stimulation, pigeonholing it as mere foreplay rather than a standalone source of ecstasy. In the mid-20th century, Alfred Kinsey’s groundbreaking research into human sexuality barely scratched the surface of nipple orgasms, focusing instead on more widely recognised forms of sexual satisfaction.
But as we break down sexual taboos and explore the full range of pleasure, the nipple orgasm is finally stepping into the spotlight. With the rise of sex-positive movements and greater access to information, more people are discovering the joys of nipple stimulation.
Now that we’ve covered biology and history, let's get down to the practical part of it. I know you were just itching to skip ahead to this section. How can you achieve a nipple orgasm? Let's break it down into two sections: if you wish to go solo, or give your partner the pleasure.
If you want to go solo
Folks, you have got the power right at your fingertips - literally. Here is how you can explore nipple orgasm solo (and this goes for anyone out there irrespective of gender or sexual preferences):
Make sure you set the vibes right. Get comfy, dim the lights, set the right music and get in the zone. Let your mind wander, let it go wild. Maybe, read some erotica, or listen to an erotic ASMR podcast before starting out to get in that headspace.
Experiment with different touching techniques, focus on breathing and relax yourself. Circle your breast/chest area with fingers slowly reaching towards the nipple. You can be experimental and use a soft feather, or ice cube to play with the sensitivity and temperature. If your nipples tend to get dry or irritated, a bit of lubricant or a nipple balm can enhance the sensation. But remember, everyone’s body is different, so you need to try things out to see what works the best for you. While exploring the nipples through your fingers, maintain a consistent rhythm. Consistent stimulation can build up the arousal needed for an orgasm. Don’t rush it. Let the sensation build naturally.
If you’re up for it, try introducing some tools. Maybe a nipple clamp, or a suction toy. We have just the sex toy for you if you are up for some fabulous fun. Check out our LIT suction massager - perfect for that teasing feeling.
If you wanna do it with a partner:
Ask your partner what they like. Everyone’s sensitivity and preferences vary, so getting direct feedback is crucial. Emily Nagoski, a sex educator and author of "Come As You Are," explains that while not everyone can achieve a nipple orgasm, for those who can, it’s due to the unique wiring of their sexual response systems, and encourages exploration and communication with partners about what feels good.
So when you are at it, be gentle. Start slow, use your lips, tongue and hands to explore. Light kisses and licks can be incredibly stimulating.
Variety is a great monotony-breaker, so get creative. Switch up your techniques. Gentle sucking, soft bites or even a bit of gentle tugging can do wonders. Pay attention to your partner’s reactions and adjust accordingly.
While focussing on the nipples, gently caress other erogenous zones. This can amplify the overall sensation and help build towards an orgasm.
Last but not the least, have some patience. Sometimes it can take some time, and that’s okay. Encourage your partner, and let them know there is no rush. The journey is just as important as the destination.
In conclusion, folks, we can only say that nipple orgasm is not a myth but a reality waiting to be discovered. Whether you are flying solo or with a partner, exploring nipple stimulation can unlock new realms of pleasure. So the next time you are in the mood, give your nipples some attention. Who knows, you might just find a new favourite way to get your rocks off! Have fun!
Also, check out our blogs on premature ejaculation and how to edge like a pro to improve your knowledge on all things sex.
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About the author
Disha (she/her) believes she's half therapist because people spill their guts to her with ease. But for now, she's writing sassy pieces on the internet about all things fun and pop culture. With a flair for wit and a curious spirit, she is all about digging into the saucy details of human intimacy.
