The lights are dimmed just right, The air is thick with an intoxicating mix of desire and anticipation. Your eyes lock, a playful smile dancing on your lips as you feel the tension simmer between you. Every inch of him holds tantalizing secrets waiting to be uncovered. You’ve been kissing for a while. Your hands begin their slow descent.

What’s next? How to give a hand job that is an unforgettable experience for both of you? How to give a hand job that will keep him yearning for a whole lot more

Understanding the Basics of a Hand Job

When it comes to how do you do a hand job that’ll have them seeing stars, the golden rule is: show some love to the whole package! Sure, the tip is like one of the main characters, and there’s heaven for someone when you roll your tongue around the tip. But don’t sleep on the rest of the ride. Make the entire length of the penis your playground. Just like the clitoris, the penis is packed with nerve endings, so make it your mission to hit as many as possible.

Secondly, make sure that you’re in a position that’s comfortable for both of you. Trust me, if you’re awkwardly twisted like a pretzel, you won’t be bringing your A-game, and if their leg’s hanging off the bed like it’s trying to escape, they won’t be in the pleasure zone either.  Before you dive in, make sure you’re both settled into a position that feels just right. My go-to? Sitting between their legs while they’re lying back with legs stretched out. It’s basic, but oh-so-effective. Not only does it make killer eye contact a breeze, but it also gives me free rein over the entire pelvic region - to do anything and everything I want ;)

To give perfect hand jobs, you also need to know the anatomy a little. If your partner’s circumcised, the head might have toughened up a bit and be less sensitive, but it will be very open to more touching there. But if we’re talking uncircumcised, the head’s going to be ultra-sensitive, like a VIP area with velvet ropes. Understanding this difference is your ticket to tailoring the touch just right.

Just like snowflakes, no two penises smell or taste exactly the same, and babe, that’s totally normal. Don’t expect your current hookup to have the same flavor profile as your ex. And if you ever find yourself a little hesitant, flavored lube is your BFF.

And speaking of lube, let’s make one more thing crystal clear: lube isn’t just a nice-to-have; it’s a must-have! Whether you’re in it for the flavor boost or just to keep things smooth, lube turns a decent experience into a mind-blowing one. Trust me, once you’re with DTF Water based lube, there’s no going back!

And the most important thing of all - the true answer to how do you do a hand job that’ll make them see heaven is YOU. The more you’re feeling it, the hotter and spicier the experience will be for both of you. And I’m not talking about faking enthusiasm; I mean genuinely wanting to pleasure your partner. Don’t treat it like a box to tick before moving on to the main event - dive in because you want to. Have fun, get playful, and let him see how much you’re into it. When you’re all in, he’ll feel it, and trust me, it’ll be fireworks! 

Step-by-Step Guide to Giving the Perfect Hand Job

Alright, babe, you’ve got how do you do a hand job basics down, but your girl’s not about to leave you hanging with just that. Let’s walk through this :

First, when you’re about to give a hand job, don’t just dive in like you’re trying to win a race. Slow it down. Show some love. Think of this as hand job foreplay, if you will.  Brush past his penis area, or give a gentle grab and massage through his pants. Soak in those moans like music to your ears.

Then, slowly unbutton his pants and let your hand slip inside. Remember, this is just the beginning. Take your time, and let every slow stroke build the anticipation. Give him a moment to savor every touch. You’re just setting the stage for something unforgettable.

During this time, don’t forget the rest of the body. Drop in a kiss on his inner thighs, or brush a fingertip over his anus. Keep it playful and unexpected. Take a detour to his nipples, even if it’s just for a second. This isn’t about just giving him an orgasm, but the entire journey of reaching there. The more you build up the anticipation, the more mind-blowing the climax will be.

Also, a lil’ eye contact please. A cheeky glance here and there can make the whole experience even hotter.

It’s now time to get creative. For instance, why stick to one hand when you’ve got two? Try using both hands, change the speed, rhythm, and pressure as you go. Start slow, then gradually mix it up.

Switch it up every minute - and no, I’m not talking about a complete overhaul of your technique. I’m talking about those tiny tweaks that make all the difference and tap into different sensations. For example, a guy I once dated loved this sneaky little trick. As you move your hands up and down, gently rub your thumb over the head of the penis when you reach there. It’s giving the standard stroke a delicious upgrade by adding an extra touch of attention to the tip. These subtle changes can keep the experience fresh and exciting, turning good into unforgettable!

Here’s another fun idea: hold the penis firmly in one hand while using the palm of your other hand to rub around the head, like you’re moving your hand on someone’s head. Start slow, then gradually increase the speed a little. You can then slide into giving stokes like you usually do. This adds an element of surprise ;)

While you’re experimenting and having fun, keep your eyes peeled for those facial and body cues. That will tell you a lot about what to do. For instance, if he’s pushing his entire body toward you, it’s a solid sign he’s craving more of what you’re doing. If he’s thrusting harder against your hand, it’s time to kick things into high gear. But if he starts to pull away, he might be trying to stretch out the pleasure for a longer session ahead. And hey, if you’re ever unsure about a cue, don’t hesitate to ask. Open communication can be just as sexy as the act itself.

Eventually, you’ll want to find that sweet spot - a good rhythm that builds speed to match his level of arousal. This not only keeps the pleasure ramping up toward climax but also helps you avoid wearing yourself out too soon. Trust me, aching wrists, hands, or arms can sneak up on you if things go on a bit too long. I’m sure we’ve all been there and do not want to be there again.

So pace yourself, enjoy the ride, and let that good rhythm lead you both to an unforgettable finish!

Here’s a pro tip : try Edging. What’s that, you ask? It’s basically slowing down or stopping j-u-s-t as your partner is about to climax. You can get creative with this - gently squeeze the head of the penis, change up the rhythm, or even take a quick pause. When the urge to climax passes, you can slowly return to the hand job and repeat the process all over again :)

Advanced Techniques for a Mind-Blowing Experience

1. The good kinda asshole :
If you and your partner are into anal play, here’s a tantalizing technique to try. While you have your one hand on the penis, lower your head down and bring it between their legs. Spread their legs a bit wider and let your tongue work its charm by making soft circles around the opening of their asshole. You might hear your partner moan extraa as you do this, so keep going bby.

2. Play with the balls :
While one hand is busy working the penis, use your other hand to give his balls some love. Cup them gently in your hands, and give a soft squeeze to heighten the pleasure.

Take it up a notch by bringing his balls into your mouth - just make sure to keep it gentle. The combination of your hands on his penis and his balls in your mouth will do something to him that I can’t even put in words.

3. Talking Dirty :
While this might not not exclusively find itself on how to give a hand job technique list, it’s a fun little trick to spice things up! Start by letting him know just how much you love that bulge in his pants. Tell him how you’re wearing that sexy lace underwear just for him. Tell him how much you love touching his penis, and how seeing it hard for you gives you pleasure too. Ask him to tell you when he’s close to climaxing - so you can either try edging or make him moan your name.

4. Making it sex(toys) - ier
Things can never get too spicy, right?

There are 2 things you can do : one, get your hands on Taco vibrating stroker for your guy, to take your vibration game to the next levellll. Second, you can use one hand on his penis and one hand to hold LIT suction massager against your clit.

If you're feeling particularly adventurous and match my levels of kink, go ahead and use both sex toys at once! I promise you, the walls of your room will be shaking.

5. Icy baby :
I saved my favorite for the last. This is such a simple trick, but I cannot tell you how amazing it is. Grab some ice cubes and hold them in your hand as you move them up and down. This little sensation shift can take you from a casual “ooh” to an “oh my god, ooh” in no time! You can ofcourse, pop ice cubes in your mouth and go down on your partner every once in a while. 

And if you’re curious about temperature play, why not explore the warm side? Have bowls of slightly warm water ready - dip your hands in and then glide them over his penis. Just wait and see how he responds to the delightful contrast! 

Common Mistakes to Avoid

While I go on and on and on about building anticipation, don’t overdo it, especially with a hand job. Leave him hanging for too long, and you might just send him into frustration mode, killing the whole mood.

Also, friction is the ultimate party pooper. Make it your mission to avoid it at all costs! Load up on lube like it’ll save your life.

If you've got long nails (especially those glam acrylics), either wield them with care or just sit this one out. And do everyone a favor: remove any rings so you can keep the fun going without a hitch.

Lastly, we might think we can top the class on how do you do a hand job. After all, it’s pretty simple, our ex loved it, and we’ve even got the references to prove it. But here’s the catch: just like every woman enjoys different touches, so do those who have penises. We make the major mistake of forgetting to ask how out partner likes to be touched. One guy I was hooking up with absolutely hated a firm grip - it caused him pain. Meanwhile, my next hookup craved that tight hold. So, lead with curiosity. Ask them about their turn-ons and preferences. Let your partner know that understanding their desires is a top priority for you.

Now that you know how to give a perfect hand job, who are you calling?  

Also, check out our blogs on What does penis taste like and Vaginal Odor to improve your knowledge of sexual health.

FAQs on How to give a hand job :

1. How do you give a good hand job?

   Start with a seductive tease. Run your fingers over their pants - build up the anticipation. Once the mood is set, switch gears with a combo of firm strokes and gentle caresses.
   
   

2. What techniques can make a hand job more pleasurable?

   There are tons of techniques to spice up hand jobs, but one suggestion is to sprinkle in an element of surprise. Whether it’s a cheeky kiss on the tip of his penis or a playful little nibble, unexpected touches turn an ordinary hand job into an unforgettable adventure.
   
   

3. Is lubrication necessary for a hand job?

   You betcha! Lube is your magic potion for a stellar hand job. Slather it on like it’s frosting on a cake to eliminate friction and amplify sensations.
   
   

4. What are some advanced hand job techniques?

   While there are plenty of techniques to explore, my all-time fav has to be temperature play! Imagine this: dipping your hands in warm or cold water before you dive in for that hand job. Better yet, hold ice cubes in your hands as you tease and please.
   
   

5. How can I communicate with my partner about what feels good during a hand job?

   Keep it flirty and fun. Ask your partner what makes them feel good and invite them to give you little hints - “How’s this pace, babe?” or “Want me to switch it up?” One of the best things to do is keep an eye on their body and facial cues, it’ll tell you a lot :)

- - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - 

About the Author:

Hemali (she/her) is an explorer of the realms of sexuality, intimacy, and dating. She talks endlessly about the evolving landscape of feminist narratives on the big screen and makes you reanalyze the portrayal of women in mainstream culture. If you're looking for alternative conversation starters, take your pick from: Biryani, Art Fairs, or Spoken Word Poetry.