Embracing Being Single on Valentine's Day
It’s the anticipation of things that is most exciting for me. A favourite meal on its way or meeting a boy I might kiss. The time and suspense leading up to the actual events have proven to become thrilling and fun. I think this is mainly because of the optimism that drives the anticipation. Many of us prefer to sit with our anticipation and savour it. But there is also another kind of anticipation. Anticipatory grief. The one I have been feeling for being single for valentine’s day as a woman in her late 20s.
The thought of being alone on valentine's day made me want to feel more in control of myself and my pleasure. So I decided to order the new ‘Candy’ of the town. And the anticipation leading to the days of the sex toy being shipped to my house was no less than exciting. A small full-body personal massager primarily for the privates by That Sassy Thing, later proved more pleasurable than the anticipation itself.
The Candy Experience for Singles
The first thing I noticed besides the captivating colours of both the packaging and product is the size. It's as if the Candy was designed to fit in the palm of my hand. It's easy to understand, light-weight to carry and extremely comfortable to hold. Unlike other sex toys for women that usually don’t have a good grip and are too focused in making it phallic alike, Candy is truly designed for women. Its ergonomic grip is a saviour. And its size makes the toy travel friendly.
I was scheduled to travel for a week the day Candy was to be delivered. And in anticipation of using it, I decided to take my new shiny wand in my hand bag. While the packaging is discreet, the retro red (also comes in bubbly blue) toy might make it obvious to any like-minded person of what the little wand is meant to do. To prevent this and save space in my purse, I carried Candy with me in a pouch instead of the box it came in.
Now sitting in my 4-hour long train ride, I started doing what many bored people would do. Took out my phone and opened my Instagram dms. I almost choked with delight on watching a reel that a dear friend had sent to me. It was Jeremy Allen White featured in Calvin Klein’s latest underwear campaign. The freezing AC temperature in my train and repeatedly watching Allen’s abs and his bugle in the ad was enough for me to get aroused. If there is a thing called lady boner, then know that I had it.
I had hours to kill before reaching my destination and feasting on Allen’s body did not help me stop doing what I did next. There is only so much one can do while they are travelling solo in a car chair train. Read, watch a movie or sleep. But the thrill of doing something that’s against the social norms takes the cake. So I decided it was time to help the tingling down there. I took out Candy from my bag and headed straight to the washroom. Given that this was a relatively new train, the toilets were quite spacious and extremely clean with tissues installed.
As much as I was unsure about masturbating in a train toilet, I was too jazzed up to use the Candy, my trusty mini handheld massager. It took me less than 10 seconds to turn on Candy and start to massage it on my clit. Given the size of Candy, I didn’t need to pull down my pants. I stood against the basin and placed my one hand on the side handle while my other hand held a buzzing Candy inside my underwear. Now, in my almost 30 years of life there hasn’t been many times when the anticipation was actually better than the real thing. And this moment in the train toilet was definitely one of those times.
Candy offers 12 different speeds and patterns. I experimented with 2-3 of them and settled on one. I used it only for external stimulation but the toy can also be used for internal play too. The moving train was making it a bit difficult to stand still but regardless I finished in under 5-minutes. I came, hard and fast. I washed up and left the toilet stall quite satisfied. For readers, who might think ughh, how disgusting it is to masturbate in a train toilet: a) I don’t care b) blame Candy.
You must also check out our blog on how to use candy personal massager to understand 5 different ways to use Candy.
Overcoming Loneliness on Valentine's Day
I have observed myself and other women to have been guilty of complicating life far too much and compelled to do things only at a certain time and space. While I understand our conditioning to social norms, I also recommend living a little on the edge. For some, it can be choosing to jump off from mountains, paragliding, for others it can be pleasuring ourselves with the help of a new small wonder aka Candy in a moving train. I assure you the result for both is more satisfying than the anticipation itself.
While I am nobody to tell you how to cope being alone on valentine’s day as a single woman, I do recommend giving yourself countless orgasms via Candy. If you would like to take control of your own pleasure, then Candy can help you reach there. This ‘gift to yourself’ is not just for being single on valentines but for any day you wish to go solo. It won’t be the real thing but it will definitely leave you feeling a little less lonely and a lot sexier.
About the Author
Questions and concerns about sex have been brewing in Moh Maya’s (she/her) head since she was 10. So she finds it fitting to document the intricacies of sexuality here and in her half-written chapters of a book on love lives of young women from India’s urban and rural spaces. She can be found observing and photographing every day lives in the neighbourhoods of Mumbai.