If you’ve reached that point in your sexual evolution where you’re curious about anal, congratulations! You’re officially on the “advanced settings” screen of intimacy. It’s exciting, a little intimidating, and possibly the first time you’ve ever stared at a silicone plug and thought, huh, maybe this tiny pastel carrot and I are about to bond spiritually.

Before you panic-google “training for anal but like… fast,” let’s slow down and breathe. Anal pleasure isn’t some mysterious dark art. It’s anatomy, psychology, good lube, and a willingness to laugh at yourself when your body makes unexpected whale noises.

This guide is your map, a sassy, slightly dirty walkthrough of anal training for beginners, especially anal training for women, whether you’re exploring with butt plug training or with a very patient penis.

If you want the basic safety facts first, we’ve already said them in far more sensible words here:
Is Anal Sex Safe? Myths, Facts & Best Practices
Now let’s get into the fun stuff.

Why Does Anal Even Feel Good? (Yes, There Are Reasons)

People don’t do this for bragging rights. There are real, delightful sensations hiding back there.

For Men (and prostate owners):

There’s a little walnut-shaped gland inside that acts like the pleasure DJ of the body. When it’s stimulated from the rectum, it can create deep waves of sensation that make grown men clutch bedsheets like Victorian heroines fainting in their fancy sitting-rooms.

For Women (and those with vulvas):

The anal and vaginal walls are thin and gently connected. They’re like roommates with a shared cloet. When something moves inside the anus, it nudges:

• The back of the vaginal canal

• The internal clitoral network (yes, it’s bigger than the external button)

The result? A strange, delicious pressure.

Also, let’s be honest: the taboo is hot

There’s something deliciously chaotic about doing the thing society whispers about. It’s like breaking a small rule. A tiny rebellion. A sexy crime that hurts absolutely no one.

Understanding Anal Training

Think of anal training as coaxing, not forcing, a very shy muscle group to open up to new experiences.

The anus isn’t like the vagina; it doesn’t just roll out a welcome mat. It doesn’t self-lubricate. You have to warm it up, win its trust, and eventually it’ll go from “absolutely not” to “okay… maybe.”

This is exactly what training for anal is: it’s a gradual stretching and relaxation process that teaches your booty to unclench emotionally and physically.

Preparation & Relaxation: The Ritual

Before diving into butt plug training, create a relaxing vibe. Not the “I quickly washed and sat on a towel like a nervous dog” vibe… the good one.

You want:

• A warm shower

• Soft music (not a sudden EDM drop)

• Plenty of lube within arm’s reach

• Privacy

• And a mood where your body feels safe and curious, not rushed

A Quick Word on Hygiene

Please don’t follow any bleaching rituals, aggressive scrubbing, or YouTube hacks involving lemon juice, please!
Just:

• A gentle external wash (works best if you have a bidet!)

• Optional: a small, gentle douche 

And most importantly:
Never move something from the anus to the vagina without washing it! That is how bacteria throw surprise parties in the wrong places. If you’re still worried about hygiene, condoms on toys or fingers make switching easier and safer.

Choosing Tools (A Love Story in Silicone)

If You’re Doing Butt Plug Training

Start with a plug that is:

• Made of soft silicone

• Has a slender, tapered tip

• Has a flared base (Very important! You don’t want your rectum to suck back up inside. Believe us, no doctor will believe you just ‘fell on it’.)

• Is a part of a set that increases sizes gradually

This is your gym membership for the training anus phase, with more fun and zero sweat.

If You’re Exploring With a Penis

Great, but please don’t treat the process like you’re working a jackhammer. Remember to go about it slowly, respectfully, and with someone guiding the angle.

Use:

• Fingers first

• Then small plugs

• Then a penis (when the body feels ready, not when someone is impatient)

Lube: The Non-Negotiable

If vaginal sex is “add lube for comfort,” anal sex is “add lube like you need oxygen to live.” Silicone-based or water-based gels are ideal.

Step-by-Step Training Process

Step 1: Warm-Up & Teasing

Massage the outside.
Circle. Press. Breathe.
Let the muscles flutter a little. This is foreplay for the foreplay.

Step 2: Introduce the First Plug

Insert the smallest plug using lots of lube, slow breathing, and patience.
If the anus tightens up, pause. Circle the rim with your finger. Breathe out as you push the finger in, gently. Then the plug.

Step 3: The Settling-In Phase

Once inside, just… hang out.
Scroll Instagram. Stretch. Pet your dog. Fold your laundry.
This is the literal essence of butt plug training: letting the body adjust without pressure.

Step 4: Level Up Slowly

Across days or weeks, go from the small to the medium, and then the large plug.

This is how you train anal muscles to relax and open without stress.

Step 5: Fingers or Penis

Only After Training
Once plugs feel easy, you can invite:

• One finger up to the second knuckle

• Two fingers

• Or a penis, with lots of communication and even more lube

This part should feel full, pleasurable pressure, not burning or sharp pain. If that happens, stop and check in. You don’t have to go all the way. You can try again the next day.

Step 6: Check in with Your Anus Like It’s a Friend

If it says:

• “Ow!”, stop

• “Wait”, pause

• “Not today?”, respect that

Consent applies to muscles too.

Common Mistakes to Avoid

• Rushing through sizes

• Using too little or no lube

• Putting anal toys into the vagina afterward

• Thrusting too early

• Ignoring pain

• Using metal/ glass/ objects-that-should-not-be-used

• Thinking porn positions are reality

Aftercare & Maintenance

Your butt just did a workout. Treat it kindly:

• Warm bath

• Hydration

• Snuggles

• Soothing gel if needed

• A small plug occasionally to maintain flexibility

You’re not just having sex; you’re cultivating a skill set.

Frequently Asked Questions