Look, we all know sex can get a little... routine. Same old moves, same old spots, same old “should we try something new?” that somehow gets lost in the busy-ness of life. Enter: the sex bucket list, your new BFF for breaking the cycle and reigniting the spark.
Why make one? Because sex isn’t just something that happens—it’s something you get to craft, explore, and own. And when you write it down—no matter how wild or tame—it stops being a vague wish and starts becoming a plan. Whether you’re flying solo or playing with a partner, a bucket list turns fantasies into experiments without the stress.
Here’s a trick: don’t pressure yourself to check off every item. This list? It’s your playground, your permission slip to say yes, maybe, or hell no—on your terms.
How to Start?
Keep it stupid simple. Create three boxes: “Hell Yes,” “Maybe,” and “Nope.” Don’t overthink it—go with your gut. Keep checking back. Your curiosity shifts as you grow.
Some Examples for Your Bucket List:
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Feather-light tickleus vs. firm pressure explore your touch spectrum
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The art of edging: teasing till you almost can’t take it anymore—and then backing off
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Mutual masturbation or mutual masturbation with toys?
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Roleplay scenarios that don’t require a costume closet: “Strangers at a bar” or “Boss woman and assistant” vibes
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Change the scenery: balcony, shower, or sneaky car date
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Write a dirty story together—then act it out
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Power dynamics without the drama: eye contact rules, light direction, hand placement
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Mix up oral play: hands-free, flavor testing, or mirror action
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Toys 101: introduce a blindfold, a wand, or a vibrating ring
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Simple touch games: five minutes of kissing without touching genitals, or non-verbal communication through touch only
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Sexy voyeurism lite: mirror sessions, audio-only moans, lingerie fashion show
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Time hacks: early morning quickie, midnight slow burn, or scheduled “no penetration” cuddle time
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Learning dates: watch a workshop or read erotica aloud together
Don’t Forget: Consent Is Sexy Af
Boundaries are your best friend, safewords aren’t just for kink, and aftercare is as important as the fun.
Celebrate every win!
Checked off something? Celebrate it. Smiled through it? Celebrate it. List evolving? Celebrate that, too.
This isn’t a checklist. It’s your ticket to play without shame, connect without pressure, and learn what really turns you on. So, grab a pen, get curious, and start building your wildest, most authentic sex bucket list. You deserve it.
About the Author
Himanshu Bhalla is the co-founder of That Sassy Thing.
Beyond building a pleasure-positive world at TST, he loves playing badminton, cooking crazy fusion food (yes, guac with rajma chawal is his thing), and spending time with his two lovely dogs.
