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You know how at a party, the DJ plays a song that he builds and builds, teasing that big drop—and when it finally hits, people lose their minds with how hard it slaps?
That’s what edging with a partner feels like.
It’s not just about delaying orgasm. It’s about deepening connection, stretching out pleasure, and learning to turn each other on in powerful waves, not sudden jolts.
Here’s how to do it—whether you're just starting to explore or already seasoned in teasing play.
What Is Partnered Edging?
Edging with a partner means one (or both!) of you gets close to orgasm—then backs off before finishing. You cool down, and build it back up again. The cycle can repeat a few times or stretch over a long, teasing session.
It can happen during:
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Oral sex
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Manual play (fingers, hands, toys)
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Penetrative sex
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Sexting, voice notes, or video calls
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Sensation play (using temperature, pressure, or textures to stimulate sensations)
It’s about staying just on the edge—and teasing each other until release feels volcanic. Or not releasing at all. That’s hot too.
Why Try It Together?
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Explosive orgasms: The build-up makes the eventual climax stronger, longer, and more full-bodied.
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More connection: Edging together demands trust, communication, and attentiveness to your partner’s body cues.
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More control: You both learn what keeps you buzzing, not just what gets you off.
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Perfect for power play: Dom/sub dynamics? Mutual teasing? Orgasm denial games? Bets on who gets there last? All fit beautifully here.
How to Start (Without Making It Weird)
1. Talk Before You Touch
Let your partner know you're curious about edging. Try:
“I’ve been thinking about teasing each other for longer before orgasming—just to see how intense it gets. Want to try?”
Set some ground rules:
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Can either of you finish at any time?
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How many edges do you want to aim for?
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Do you want a safeword in case it gets frustrating?
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What happens if one of you (or both) don’t want to/can’t finish?`
2. Use a Signal or Word
Especially during oral or penetrative sex, the person being edged can raise a hand, say “pause,” or use a fun code like:
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“Hold it”
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“Too much”
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“Switch” (for turning the tables)
3. Build in Layers
Go slow. Some ways to edge:
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Hands: Linger around erogenous zones without direct pressure.
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Toys: Use a wand, bullet, or stroker on low speed, then pause before the peak.
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Oral: Give strong stimulation, then pull back to kisses or breath play.
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Penetration: Pause mid-thrust, switch positions, or stop entirely while still inside.
4. Play With Temperature + Texture
Tease the body with:
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Cold sensations (metals like spoons, toys, nipple clamps, just good old-fashioned ice).
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Warm breath, towels, wax, or warm oil.
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Feathers, silk, or a flogger with a gentle hand
The mind and body get revved up without going straight for climax.
5. Decide: To Finish or Not?
Some couples love a final, powerful orgasm. Others prefer orgasm denial—drawing out the energy and not releasing it at all.
Either can be hot. Choose what suits your mood (or roles) that day.
Watch Out For:
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Frustration: It’s normal to feel impatient. That’s part of the play. Agree on limits or check in often.
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Physical sensitivity: Some people feel overstimulated after a few edges. Always adapt to what feels good.
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Power imbalance: If one person always controls the climax, make sure it's consensual and fun for both of you.
Tips & Tricks
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Lube is your best friend—especially with toys or repetitive motion.
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Try edging with voice: Whisper dirty things, narrate what you’re going to do, then don’t do it (yet).
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Record a timer challenge: Try edging for 10, 15, or 20 minutes before allowing release.
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Build a reward system: “One more edge, and you get [x].” Could be a kiss, a toy, a spanking—you decide.
TL;DR: Partnered Edging Is...
About slowing down.
Staying in sync.
And pushing pleasure until you’re both breathless.
When you finally let go—it’s not just an orgasm.
It’s a reward you built together.
Tip: Use a partner-friendly vibrator or dual-stimulation sex toys to amplify teasing while your hands explore other erogenous zones.
Don’t forget lube—smooth, friction-free glide (especially with toys) keeps arousal high and the buildup intense.
About the Author
Madhu (she/her) has been an avid reader of all things spicy since her childhood. She writes sassy blog posts and listicles now so that others may benefit from her wholly inappropriate, wholly informative tastes, too.