Close your eyes and think about your teenage self. Before the vibrators, before the lubes, before you even knew what grinding was. More likely than not, you’ll remember your time with a pillow. Wow, did they carry our horny little teenage souls.

Today, we’re rewinding to the golden age of pillow play and asking the real question: why did we ever stop, and why should you def bring ‘em back into your shik shak sex routine.

Why Pillows?

Pillows aren’t just for sleepy cuddles. They’re undercover pleasure hacks, babe.

• Elevation is Everything: Pop a firm pillow under your butt or lower back and boom—your pelvis tilts, the clit or G-spot gets VIP access, and the feels get turned way up. Translation? Fireworks, minus the wrist strain. Your fingers = forever grateful.
  And if you want deeper strokes that actually hit, slide that pillow under your hips and thank it for serving the G-spot on a silver platter. Two birds, one pillow.
  

• Comfy = Cummy: When you’re not twisted like a yoga fail, your body chills out and your pleasure? Sky. Rocket.
  

• Better Blood Flow: Better angles mean better blood flow to your bits. This means that your nerve endings are feeling every damn thing. Sensitivity = maxed out.

My Masturbation Awakening

Growing up, two things shaped my pleasure game. One, the iconic jet spray and two, my pillow. 

I was out here dry-humping cushions way before I even knew what a clit was! Back then, I didn’t even understand why I was enjoying it so much. Eventually, sleepovers with my girlies confirmed I was NOT the only one. Turns out, half of us were out here grinding for our lives while pretending to nap. 

My flatmate very recently told me that grinding on a pillow with a lube is a full-blown spiritual experience for her, even today. She says it hits her with major nostalgia. Takes her straight back to her pre-vibrator era, in that cozy lil bedroom where it all began.

(If you haven’t done somethin’ with your pillow for quite sum time - this is the sign you’re looking for.)

These stories kinda sorta remind me of the time from episode two of Dying for Sex. I was grinning like a damn Cheshire cat when Michelle Williams started full-on humping a pillow. Usually, female masturbation on TV is all slow-mo fingers and soft sighs - demure, barely-there. But THIS? This was so real, scrappy, and tryna figure it out energy.

And if you’ve never tried it... babe. If Michelle’s on that grind, grab the pillow next to you and join the damn movement. 

Pillow Style Solo Time

Remember the time Aimee, in Sex Education, uses a stuffed panda to get off? While that’s not exactly a pillow, it falls right into the same sensory and pressure category. 

Here’s your DIY guide for the same feels -

• Grab a pillow (firmer = better for that ✨oomph✨)
• Slide it under your hips or lay on it, face down
• Grind, rock, hump, wiggle—whatever your clit’s craving
• Water-based lubricant would be your elite move. Extra slippery, extra yummy.
• Pro tip? Pop a sex toy between you and the pillow. I very recently experimented with this one, and trust me, my life has changed.

The clit has 8,000 nerve endings just WAITING to be shown a good time. Pillow play mimics that delicious partnered grind, but instead, you’re the one in full control. 

Pillows as Wingwomen

If your boo’s over for a lil sleepover special, it’s time to grab that pink pillow and LEVEL. UP.

• Under-the-hips sorcery: During missionary or oral, slide that pillow under her butt. Suddenly, the clit’s front and center, and the angles? Chef’s freakin’ kiss.

• Pillow throne moment: Stack 'em up, seat your partner high, and kneel like the devoted pleasure god(dess) you are. Everything's easier, hotter, and comfier.
• Doggy remix: Partner on all fours, pillow tucked under the tumm. Less knee pain, more G-spot bing bing bing. Alignment matters, bestie.

• Grinding games: Lay on your back, pillow on your lower belly, and have your partner grind on you with it in between. That added pressure + friction? Kinda illegal how good it feels.

Sex Pillows: The Upgrade You Didn’t Know You Needed

Sometimes a basic pillow just ain’t enough for the freaky stuff, and that’s where sex pillows enter the chat. These firm, angled baddies are designed to stay in shape, no matter how wild you wanna go with your positions.

Built with high-density foam, I promise you that this will not flop or flatten, like the usual one on your bed now. It won’t dip under your body weight either. And the best part? It comes with a very easy, removable, and washable cover, because sex is messy, but cleanup doesn’t have to be.

And the most important bit, this is so sanskaari on the streets, freak in the sheets coded. It totally passes the Indian household vibe check. Looks innocent, lives a double life. Use it as a laptop stand by day, and then… shut the door.

Okay babygirl, hope you’ve mentally made out with at least three pillows while reading this. Now go on, grab your fave one irl too, and have fun!

Author Bio:

Hemali (she/her) is an explorer of the realms of sexuality, intimacy, and dating. She talks endlessly about the evolving landscape of feminist narratives on the big screen and makes you reanalyze the portrayal of women in mainstream culture. If you're looking for alternative conversation starters, take your pick from: Biryani, Art Fairs, or Spoken Word Poetry.