Okay, I have a rant to start this with. Every time I’ve come across an article on ‘how to seduce a man sexually,’ it’s been the most sexist, outdated, yawn-inducing advice ever. Trust me, here are the actual lines I’ve found:

"Giggle at everything he says."
"Don’t be too forward, men like the chase."
“Don’t already start thinking about your future, it’ll turn him off.”

And when I say I’ve seen countless versions of this nonsense, believe me, there is no end to it. Fr, what century are we in? 

I got tired of these tragic tips, so today, I’m dropping a guide on how to seduce a guy sexually - feminist edition. No cringe. No outdated BS. Just power, tease, and control in your hands.

The “Fingertips Only” Rule: 

We’re playing a little game, and spoiler alert: I’m gonna make you win.

The rule is- ONLY FINGERTIPS to seduce him sexually. No grabbing, no full-on body-to-body, just the lightest, most excruciating tease you can manage.
Barely graze his skin like you’re whispering sweet nothings with your hands. Run those magic fingers slooowly over his neck, chest, thighs and everywhere he desperately wants them. Watch him lose his mind hoping you touch him a little more - maybe with your hands, maybe with your mouth. But oh, tonight, fingertips are all he’s gonna get!

The “Leave a Little Bit of You Behind” Trick:

The scent is witchcraft, okay? It’s one of the top easiest tricks to seduce sexually, because bestie, Science is backing your spell-casting up.

So, spritz your perfume on his hoodie. Leave a little on his pillow. Get close, like, real close - so your scent lingers on his skin. Let him catch hints of your perfume hours after you’ve left. Make sure every breath he takes, every breeze he feels, carries a little bit of you. He’ll be looking for you in every breeze.

The Forbidden Kiss Rule: 

"We can do anything tonight… except kiss."
Then spend the whole night getting way too close. Brushing lips. Whispering against his skin. Running your fingers along his jaw. But never kissing.
By the end of the night? Begging. He’ll be begging. And that my frns, is how you seduce him sexually.

The Ice Cube Run: 

Grab an ice cube, bestie. Now, sloooowly drag it down your neck, across your collarbone, and maybe let it slip just past your cleavage. Or, if you’re feeling extra, take it even lower. 
All while locking eyes like you know exactly what you’re doing.
Then? Pass it to him. See what he does with it. See if he can handle it. See if you can handle it. 

The “Keep Talking While You Do That” Trick: 

Start with a totally normal convo. Like, super chill. “Oh, did I tell you what happened today?”
Then? Casually, like it’s no big deal, straddle his lap. Keep talking. Keep eye contact. And while you’re at it, kiss his neck. Let your fingers trail under his shirt. Play with his belt or the zipper of his jeans. Do all you can to seduce sexually, while maintaining the most casual tone ever.
The contrast? The nonchalance? It’ll wreck him. He won’t know whether to focus on your words or the way your fingers are driving him insane. And that, bestie, is a 101-guaranteed tip on the list of how to seduce a guy sexually. 

The "One-Word Command" Game: 

For the night, both of you can only give one-word orders.
"Come."
"Closer."
"Sit."
"Stay."
“There.”

See how the minimal words and maximum impact will take your seduce sexually game to the moon.

Get Naughty in Public: 

When you’re at a party together, lean in and whisper straight into his ear: "I shouldn’t say this here, but I really want to blow you right now." Then? Walk away.
Or, if you’re sitting across from him, let your foot brush just slightly over his leg under the table. Lick your spoon slowly while making full-on, unwavering eye contact. Keep it subtle, keep it smooth, and watch the effect hit him like a truck.

Bestie, trust me, he’ll be so seduced sexually that he won’t be able to focus on anything else. The only thought running through his head? "When do we get out of here?"

The ‘Echo His Breath’ Tease: 

This is some Jedi-level seduction. When you're close, try to subtly match his breathing. When you're close, like really close, start subtly matching his breathing. Inhale when he does. Exhale when he does. Stay locked in, like you're syncing souls or some cosmic-level connection. His subconscious will be screaming “We are ONE” while his body is losing its damn mind.

Give him a show: 

Tell him, sweetly, innocently, that he can’t touch you tonight. No hands, no sneaky moves, nothing. Just watching.
Then? Touch yourself. Slowly. Teasingly. Run your fingers over your collarbone, down your stomach, and brush them over your inner thighs, maybe a little lower.

Touch your clit till you climax. Then, touch yourself some more. Let him see everything.
And when he’s practically feral, reaching for you? Tsk, tsk. Not tonight, babe. Just flash him a little smirk, adjust your clothes, crawl into bed like it’s no big deal, and “Goodnight.”
Let him suffer. Let him dream about it. Let him ache for you. This is psychological warfare, and you just won.

The "Don’t Move or Else" Game: 

Straddle him. Get so close your breath is on his lips. Touch him all over, maybe kiss his back. The only condition is - "Don’t move. If you move, I stop." 

Now, you’ve to make sure he fails. And, when he does, say "Oops. Game over." Or, you could heighten the stakes and now, punish him. 

Look, life’s too short for boring misogynist tips on how to seduce a guy sexually. You’re a walking fantasy, an experience, a main-character energy queen. So go out there, tease, tantalize, and own the damn moment.

Want to take seduction up a notch? A vibrator, some water-based lube, or a couple’s toy can turn teasing into toe-curling pleasure. Whether solo or together, the right toy makes the game even hotter. Ready to play?

Author Bio:

Hemali (she/her) is an explorer of the realms of sexuality, intimacy, and dating. She talks endlessly about the evolving landscape of feminist narratives on the big screen and makes you reanalyze the portrayal of women in mainstream culture. If you're looking for alternative conversation starters, take your pick from: Biryani, Art Fairs, or Spoken Word Poetry.