Let’s say it plain: sex isn’t just about moaning and writhing in pleasure—it’s medicine. Actual, literal, body-boosting, brain-balancing, soul-uplifting medicine.
We’ve spent way too long treating pleasure like dessert when it’s the main damn course. And science is finally catching up to what people with good sex lives have known forever: pleasure heals.
So, if you’ve ever needed permission to chase better orgasms, better connection, and better intimacy, consider this your official prescription. Because, spoiler alert: better sex doesn’t just lead to more toe-curling moments—it leads to better health, better work, and a way better life.
Let’s break it down, shall we?
1. Better Sex = Better Health
Pleasure is a full-body workout, and not just because your thighs are sore the next day. Studies have shown that people with regular, satisfying sex lives tend to have:
A study from Wilkes University found that college students who had sex once or twice a week had higher levels of immunoglobulin A (IgA), which helps protect against colds and infections. Yes, orgasms might actually be part of your flu defense strategy.
According to the American Journal of Cardiology, men who had sex twice a week or more were less likely to develop heart disease compared to those who had it less than once a month. A literal heart-throb situation.
Having a headache? Sex might help. Research in Cephalalgia (yes, that’s a journal on headaches) found that sexual activity could relieve migraine pain in some sufferers. Suddenly, “Not tonight, I have a headache” feels a little outdated, doesn’t it?
Oxytocin + prolactin + serotonin = the post-orgasm nap trifecta. These chemicals released during and after orgasm relax the body, lower cortisol (the stress hormone), and make you sleep deeper than a toddler post-tantrum.
Regular orgasms can help regulate estrogen and testosterone levels in all genders, which can support everything from clearer skin to better mood to a healthier libido in the long run.
Basically, good sex is self-care that works harder than your vitamin stash ever could.
2. Better Sex = Better Work
Look, I’m not saying your performance review depends on your performance in bed... but I’m also not not saying that.
One juicy study from Oregon State University followed 159 married employees for two weeks. The results? Those who had sex at night reported more positive moods and higher job satisfaction the next day—even when controlling for other variables.
Why? Dopamine and oxytocin released during sex don’t just bond you to your boo. They also elevate your mood, increase motivation, and sharpen focus. Combine that with the restful sleep that follows? You’re practically unstoppable.
Another study published in the Journal of Management (yes, that exists) showed that maintaining a healthy sex life enhances “daily job engagement.” Translation: You’re more likely to show up to that 9 am Zoom call with the camera on and a glow that no ring light can replicate.
And let’s not forget—when you feel desired, satisfied, and connected in your body, you’re less likely to seek validation from work hustle, doomscrolling, or awkward water cooler convos. You’re grounded. Confident. And no, Ritesh from HR, we won’t be replying to that email at 10 pm.
3. Better Sex = Better Life
Sex isn’t just physical. It’s deeply emotional, spiritual, and psychological. And when it’s good—when it’s safe, consensual, joyful, and connected—it becomes a superpower.
Here’s how:
A satisfying sex life (solo or partnered!) often correlates with greater body confidence and self-worth. When you learn what your body loves, when you own your pleasure, and when you give or receive it freely, you’re not just getting turned on—you’re getting empowered.
Oxytocin, released during orgasm and cuddling, is known as the “bonding hormone.” It promotes trust, emotional intimacy, and closeness. So if your couple’s therapy homework ever said “more physical touch,” now you know why.
Regular orgasms—again, solo counts—release serotonin, endorphins, and dopamine. These neurotransmitters regulate mood, reduce anxiety, and combat depression. A study titled “Exploring the Role of Masturbation as a Coping Strategy in Women" in the International Journal of Sexual Health, 2024, found that many women used masturbation as a reliable self-care strategy to induce positive emotional states, such as happiness and relaxation.
Get this: a long-term study published in the BMJ (British Medical Journal) found that men who had frequent orgasms had a 50% lower mortality rate than those who didn’t. Think of it as cardio with better lighting and fewer gym bros.
Great sex demands that you drop into your body and out of your head. It’s one of the few times modern humans are fully present. No notifications. No multitasking. Just breathe, sensation, and presence. That’s the original wellness practice right there.
But Wait—What Is Better Sex, Anyway?
Let’s be real. Not all sex is created equal. “More sex” isn’t the answer if it’s not satisfying, wanted, or consensual.
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Better sex isn’t about porn-scripted moaning or circus-level flexibility. It’s about:
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Feeling safe and respected.
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Knowing what you want—and being able to ask for it.
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Prioritizing pleasure, not performance.
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Being curious, not self-critical.
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Being open to exploration without shame.
And yes, that includes solo play. Masturbation is not plan B—it’s premium, tailored-for-you, no-pressure joy. It teaches you what you like, boosts your mood, and makes partnered play better, too. As the saying goes: know thyself—or someone else will try and guess. Poorly.
So, How Do You Start Having Better Sex?
Glad you asked. Here’s your glow-up checklist:
Try new things. Explore with touch, toys, temperatures, or techniques. Tune in to what feels good instead of what looks good.
Whether it’s with a partner or your own inner voice, talk it out. Express needs, desires, boundaries, and fantasies. Consent is hot. So is clarity.
Safety is sexy. Emotional safety. Physical safety. All of it. The more you trust, the more you let go.
No one’s in the mood when cortisol is raging. Create a vibe: lighting, scents, music, foreplay. Let your nervous system exhale.
Sex doesn’t have to be perfect. It just has to be real. Messy, giggly, tender, explosive—go with what’s honest.
TL;DR?
Better sex isn’t just about your sex life. It’s about your whole damn life.
Your mind. Your mood. Your relationships. Your resilience. Your morning meetings. Your immune system.
It’s not self-indulgent. It’s self-aware.
It’s not frivolous. It’s foundational.
It’s not a luxury. It’s your right.
So go ahead—romance yourself, flirt more, cuddle harder, play often, explore safely. Your future glowing, thriving, deeply-satisfied self will thank you.
Pleasure isn’t the cherry on top. It’s the whole damn sundae.
About the Author:
Madhu (she/her) has been an avid reader of all things spicy since her childhood. She writes sassy blog posts and listicles now so that others may benefit from her wholly inappropriate, wholly informative tastes, too.
