I once read somewhere, “Why are blow jobs so liked?” and the response was, “Because someone is willing to choke off their oxygen supply to say, ‘I love you,’ and that’s beautiful.” Jokes aside, blow jobs really are like the spicy margarita of the sexual menu. It’s also true that many of us might not be super thrilled at the idea of giving BJs at first. But as you explore intimacy, you quickly realise that they bring a whole new level of excitement to the experience. The real game-changer? That powerful feeling of being completely in control of your partner’s pleasure—it’s empowering and undeniably sexy. Once I figured that out, I was all in.

Whether it’s the thrill of switching up the dynamic, the intimacy of being completely present for your partner, or just wanting to showcase your oral skills, blow jobs bring a level of excitement that can’t be beat. People love them because they mix vulnerability with power—you're giving pleasure, but trust me, you're in control of the show. Sometimes, blow jobs can also be potentially much, much better than sex, and sometimes, you don’t even need to get to sex. It’s quick, it’s fun, and super exciting. Plus, guys love it because, let’s face it, there’s zero effort on their part and a guaranteed orgasm. What’s not to love? It’s like the ultimate shortcut to pleasure-ville, and we’re the ones holding the map. With the right oral sex position, you can hit all the right notes.

It’s all about variety, sensory overload, and the visual. Seeing your partner completely lost in pleasure? Yeah, that’s a rush. Also, mastering different techniques or positions for bj can make you feel like an absolute pro, while keeping your partner on their toes (literally, in some cases!). Whether it's a slow, teasing session or a spontaneous act in the middle of movie night, there’s something undeniably electrifying about them. 

Simply put: blow jobs add flavour, excitement, and that ‘wow’ factor to bedroom fun. If you love giving or receiving blow jobs, we’re here to take things up a level by suggesting some fun positions for bj for you to try. Read on, and see if there is any that you’d love to try in bed. 

Why positions matter for the perfect blow job 

Well, the right positions for bj can be game-changer for both the giver and receiver. Whether you’re looking to go all-in with deepthroating or trying to give yourself room to breathe, the best sex position for oral sex determines your control, access, and comfort. The best oral position is the one where you are comfortable. Also, certain angles create a visual feast, and let’s be honest—sometimes the best part of a blow job is the view! Think about it: no one wants to strain their neck in an awkward angle when they could be hitting all the right spots with ease. Whether you’re trying different oral positions or perfecting your go-to, the best oral sex positions will keep things exciting and satisfying. From kneeling to laying back, right positions for bj can make or break the experience, and we are here to help you find out what is the best way to give a blow job. Here are some of the fun and best sex position for oral sex:

A 69 – Who wouldn’t want to give and receive at the same time? This position for bj lets you go full deepthroat while giving easy access to your partner's balls. Meanwhile, you’re getting treated to a good ol' eating out session. The only downside? Focusing on both giving and receiving can be a challenge, but honestly, that just adds to the fun, right?

Kneeling – A classic for a reason—it never disappoints. You can either be on the floor, kneeling down with your partner standing or sitting. This one gives off total submissive vibes, making it super hot if you're into that sub-dom dynamic. Wanna level it up? Try it in front of a mirror where your partner can watch the action (extra points if they're an ass person).

The Reverse Cowgirl (Oral Edition) – Turn around and face away from your partner while you're giving them oral, bringing a whole new twist to the blow job game. This not only gives them a different visual but also allows you to control the depth and rhythm. Some compare this to a power play, saying It feels like you’re riding, but with your mouth. The bonus? Your hands are free to roam, and there’s something extra sexy about giving pleasure without making direct eye contact—makes it feel a bit more playful and unexpected.

The Chair Throne – For when you’re feeling extra: your partner sits back in a chair while you kneel or sit on the floor in front of them. This gives you complete control while letting them lean back and relax like they’re in some sort of VIP lounge. Not only does it put you at the perfect angle, but it’s also perfect for throwing in some deep eye contact. And honestly, this is the position that can make you feel like you’re auditioning for a sexy music video. Bonus points if you bring the intensity with some hands-on action at the same time!

The Flat-Back Glide – In this position, the giver lies flat on their stomach while the receiver stands or kneels above. It’s a more passive role for the giver, but it allows the receiver to control the depth and speed. Think of it as the laid-back, lazy-Sunday approach to blow jobs. This position gives the receiver a perfect view and hands-free control, making it a fun switch-up for those who like mixing in power dynamics.

Laying on the Back – Not as common, but totally underrated. The giver lies on their back with their head hanging off the edge of the bed while the receiver stands or adjusts to the right angle. This one gives a full-body view of the giver, making it extra spicy and a total turn-on.

Tips to maximise pleasure in each position:

• For a more dominated experience, the receiver can hold the giver's head and control the thrusting. Yeah, it’s intense.
• Spontaneous BJs are where it’s at! Think about the surprise element—like in the shower, with water trickling down, and suddenly, boom! Or mid-video game, or even during a work call, when you feel your pants getting unzipped. The shock factor? Chef's kiss.
• One tip you often hear is to engage all the senses. Got a mirror nearby? Use it. Not only does it amplify the visual stimulation, but it also turns up the intimacy. Another gem: don’t just rely on your mouth! Hands, tongue, eye contact—everything plays a part in making each position feel special. Even a small change in posture can take things from 'meh' to mind-blowing. In simpler terms? Stay creative and switch it up when you feel things getting a bit too routine.

Common Mistakes to Avoid

One of the most upvoted comments on the Reddit sub r/sex about oral mistakes reads: “Too much enthusiasm, not enough strategy!” A common pitfall is going in too hard, too fast. People tend to forget that pacing is key. Another biggie is neglecting the receiver’s feedback. We’ve all seen those movie scenes where a character gets overly focused on technique without checking in with their partner—don’t be that person. Also, forgetting the basics, like lubrication or switching positions when needed, can take the excitement down a notch. As they say, If you’re treating a blow job like a race, you’re already losing. It’s about pleasure, not speed. Slow it down, stay tuned in, and remember—there’s no rush!

Want to take your oral play to the next level? Incorporating vibrators or other sex toys can add a whole new dimension of pleasure for both you and your partner. From our collection of personal massagers to couple’s toys, there's something for every dynamic. Don’t forget to use lubricants for smoother sensations and added comfort, making each moment even more enjoyable. Check out our range of vibrators, sex toys, and water based lubes to enhance your intimate experiences!

Also, check out our blogs on Understanding slow sex and beginners guide to pegging to improve your knowledge of sexual health.

FAQs on Oral Sex Positions

What is the best sex positions for bj?  

The best sex position for oral sex depends on comfort and preferences, but exploring the best oral positions, like kneeling or the 69, can make the experience even more thrilling. For control, sitting on the edge of a bed or standing while your partner kneels is also a fan favourite.

How do you make oral sex more comfortable?  

Pillows are your best friend! Whether under your knees, hips, or neck, they provide support and relieve pressure. Also, communicate with your partner about pace, depth, and when to take breaks.

Can different oral positions improve pleasure?  

Absolutely! Switching up positions changes angles and sensations, which can increase intensity. Try positions like side-lying or standing with your partner to hit different sweet spots.

What are good oral sex positions for deeper penetration?  

Positions like the "Flat-Back Glide" (lying on your back with your head off the edge of the bed) or kneeling while your partner stands can offer deeper penetration, thanks to gravity and better angles.

How can I communicate better during oral sex?  

Use both verbal and non-verbal cues. A little moan or touch can signal what feels good, and don’t be afraid to ask your partner how they like it, or guide them if you’re receiving.

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About the author 

Disha (she/her) believes she's half therapist because people spill their guts to her with ease. But for now, she's writing sassy pieces on the internet about all things fun and pop culture. With a flair for wit and a curious spirit, she is all about digging into the saucy details of human intimacy.