“Wait, you don’t know about Hovering Butterfly Sex?” my partner asked, looking genuinely shocked.

I knew a little bit about butterfly and sex, but I’d never heard of hovering butterfly sex in particular. Now, you know your internet research spree girl and the fact that she is also not the one to miss out on bedroom spice. Fast forward to today, and I’m basically your Butterfly for sex guide extraordinaire.

Understanding the Butterfly Sex Position

You're the main character, lying on your back on a comfy bed, sleek table, or (for the risk-takers) a sturdy kitchen counter. Your booty is slightly elevated, legs doing their best spread 'n' slay - either bent, in a wide V.  Meanwhile, your penetrating partner stands at the edge, ready to do most of the work. This works whether it’s a penis or a dildo, equal opportunity for all the fun!

Here’s why this position has a five-star rating in the Kama Sutra:

• It hits all the right spots, like a GPS location set to Pleasure City.
• You can easily reach down for a little DIY clitoral action or have your partner lend a hand for a double-whammy.
• You can also adjust your legs for max comfort and stimulation. We don’t just want it good; we want it great.

How to Set Up the Butterfly Position 

First things first, choose your stage. It can be a bed, a sturdy table, or even a flat surface that screams, “We’re making this fun and functional.” The receiving partner lies on their back, scooching their hips right to the edge of the surface. Think ‘perched and ready,’ with legs naturally hanging for that effortless butterfly in sex elegance.

Now, lift and spread those legs wide open like you’re striking a pose for an invisible photographer. Your partner will either stand or kneel at the edge, holding your legs for ultimate support and control. It’s teamwork, baby.

The key to this position is finding the angles that work for you both. Whether you’re chasing a certain spot or just winging the rhythm, keep moving, adjusting, and communicating until it’s nothing short of fireworks. 

Why It's Called the Butterfly 

When you spread your legs wide open, you create a shape that resembles butterfly wings. It’s an open, inviting posture that mimics a butterfly’s graceful flutter. So, next time you’re in this position, just imagine those beautiful wings in motion. It’s both poetic and oh-so-sexy.

Variations of the Butterfly Position

Twisted Butterfly Sex Position

Yes, it’s as hot as it sounds. The receiving partner lies on their side, while the giver stays in the classic Butterfly sex position. This twist isn’t just for show, it brings a whole new angle to penetration, hitting spots you didn’t even know were on the map. Toss in a pillow under the receiver’s hip or the giver’s knees (because comfort is sexy), and play around with angles until you find that yes, queen moment. 

Pro-tip: Have the receiver switch sides to see which way feels extra dreamy. Go on, give it a whirl, you’ll thank me later.

Wrapped Butterfly Sex

The receiving partner tilts their pelvis upward and wraps their legs around the giver’s waist like they’re claiming their throne. This move brings a lot of tightness, while that upward tilt ensures the G-spot is front and center in the action. Bonus points? The receiver’s legs can pull their partner closer for deeper thrusts and even guide the motion - cause who doesn’t love being in control of their own pleasure? 

Just a heads-up: the leg wrap might limit the giver’s movement a bit, so they’ll want to use their hands on the receiver’s hips for that extra oomph during out-strokes.

Tucked Butterfly Sex

The receiving partner raises their legs and tucks them toward their chest like they’re about to hug themselves, which tilts the pelvis just right for some prime G-spot action.

And for some extra spice - it also makes the back door super accessible if that’s on the menu ;)

Venus Butterfly Oral

Hold onto your panties (or toss them), because the Butterfly oral sex takes oral to celestial levels. This technique is about your partner multitasking, while you are still striking the gorgeous butterfly pose. Think tongue action on the clit while the hands explore the G-spot, thighs, or whatever sends shivers down. It’s sensual, it’s dynamic, and oh, it’s such a whole-body experience.

The key? Sync up your moves and don’t shy away from mixing in some teasing strokes or adding a sex toy to the lineup. Venus herself would approve of this pleasure-packed masterpiece.

The receiving partner raises their legs and tucks them toward their chest like they’re about to hug themselves, which tilts the pelvis just right for some prime G-spot action.

And for some extra spice - it also makes the back door super accessible if that’s on the menu ;)

Tips for Enhancing Pleasure in the Butterfly Position

Keep it flexible. The angle of your legs, the way your partner’s body is positioned, and even the vibe in the room will totally switch up how everything feels. 

And of course, nothing like adding your clit’s best frns too. Your hands are free to hold the best vibrator on your clitoris, and can take you to heavens you wouldn't be able to imagine. 

Also, Lube is your bestie, through and through. I’d recommend a water-based lube one, for no bad scenes.

And reminder : foreplay is everything. A little massage, some teasing touches, maybe even a few kisses (yes please). All of that sets the mood and makes everything way hotter. 

Lastly, experiment with angles. A little tweak here and there with the receiver’s legs or hips, and BOOM! New sensations. It’s like a pleasure scavenger hunt, and you’re both in it to win it. 

The Hovering Butterfly Variation 

The flutter that actually got me to read up about this deserves a little extra attention. This is the sexy lovechild of core strength and butterfly sex. Imagine the usual Butterfly in sex: your partner’s lying back, legs spread like wings, looking all gorgeous. But, they’re not fully lying down. Instead, they lift their upper body onto their elbows or hands, serving major “I got this” energy.

Hovering butterfly sex doesn’t just show off some core strength; it changes the angle completely, giving the penetrating partner deeper access and a chance to explore new sensations. Plus, the semi-upright position makes locking eyes and sharing those fiery, intimate moments so much easier. It’s equal parts spicy and intimate, a total boss move.

Benefits of the Butterfly Position in Sex

First off, switching positions is super easy with Butterfly in sex. You can slide from one angle to the next, keeping it fresh without missing a beat.

And since this position is hands-free, the penetrating partner has full access to other erogenous zones. Inner thighs, nipples, clit - you name it. It’s like a whole pleasure buffet, and you can just go for it.

Oh, and the G-Spot simulation! The angle hits all the right spots, intensifying the pleasure. And, my fav fav reason to love this position: the solid A1 visual connection. 

Let’s talk about adaptability. This position works for so many situations. Whether it’s with a strap-on, sex toys, or even anal, it’s flexible enough for whatever you’re in the mood for. If you want to switch it up and bring in your favorite vibe (hello, vibrator), Butterfly Sex has got your back. It’s like a position chameleon, always ready for something new.

And lastly, the consistency factor. You know those moments when things start slowing down? Not in the Butterfly. Because there’s no extra weight to carry, you can keep up the tempo without feeling exhausted. 

Common Mistakes to Avoid

Neglecting the kneeling partner’s comfort is a rookie mistake that can turn sexy into sore real quick. Hard surfaces are another no-no. A sore back for the receiver and bruised knees for the giver is not the vibe. Pillows and blankets are your besties here. Pop a cushion or a folded blanket(s) so neither of you has to take up pain, in a bad way. 

And while you’re at it, don’t get stuck in one angle! Staying static is a trap. Butterfly and sex isn’t a set-it-and-forget-it. It’s really versatile, switching up leg positions or tweaking the hip tilt can completely change the game. But remember, comfort is key here, not a who-can-split-wider contest, so if overstretching those legs starts to feel like a gym session, ease up and adjust.

For the giver, restricted movement can also cramp the mood. If the receiving partner’s legs are clamped too tightly around the waist, it can limit thrusting range and rhythm. Strike a balance between closeness and freedom to keep things flowing.

Speaking of flow, ignoring body alignment is another buzzkill. If the giver’s angle is too high or too low compared to the receiver’s hips, it can feel awkward instead of intimate. Take a moment to align. This is about the hot connection, not clunky mechanics.

Fly my love, you now know everything you need! Go forth and flutter like the sensual, confident butterfly you were born to be!

FAQs on Butterfly Sex

What is the butterfly position in sex?

Butterfly and sex involve the receiving partner lying back with their hips raised and legs wide while the giver stands or kneels for deep, intimate penetration and hands-free exploration.

Why is it called the butterfly position?

The receiver’s legs spread out like butterfly wings, creating a visual that’s both graceful and downright sexy.

How can I make the butterfly sex position more comfortable?

Cushions and blankets are your bffs! Pop one under the receiver’s hips, another under the giver’s knees, and adjust the angles till it’s chef’s kiss.

What are the benefits of trying the hovering butterfly sex variation?

It’s a spicy remix of the classic - deeper penetration, more control for the giver, and a playful twist on your bedroom playlist.

Is the butterfly position suitable for beginners?

Oh, 100%! It’s low-effort, adaptable, and perfect for testing the waters while keeping things easy-breezy and exciting.

How does the butterfly position enhance intimacy in a relationship?

Butterfly and sex have all the eye contact, body worship, and erogenous zone access you need to turn up the heat and connect on every level.

Author Bio:

Hemali (she/her) is an explorer of the realms of sexuality, intimacy, and dating. She talks endlessly about the evolving landscape of feminist narratives on the big screen and makes you reanalyze the portrayal of women in mainstream culture. If you're looking for alternative conversation starters, take your pick from: Biryani, Art Fairs, or Spoken Word Poetry.