Being a good planner is one of the sexiest qualities ever, okay? Hear me out. Good planning requires careful attention, thorough communication, and flexibility–all of which makes for a better lover.
So if you wanna level up the rizz, tap into your inner planner and enhance the connection with your boo(s), with date night! Whether it's a snug Netflix and chill session or a candlelit dinner, planning a date adds that extra special touch.
Of course, you can always consider if you want Aunt Sassy’s intimate massagers to be part of your plan and add an extra element of pleasure!
Get ready to ignite the passion and leave your lover(s) wanting more. Dive into our piece for all the tips you’ll ever need.
1. Be Prepared to Woo
When it comes to planning your date night, don't wait until the last minute. Stay ahead of the game by giving yourself ample time to look up fun things to do and to scout the ideal date spot. By planning ahead, you can ensure a smoother and more enjoyable experience for you and your sweetheart.
Here’s also when you figure out if you want the date to be a surprise. Imagine their anticipation when you say something like, "I want to plan a special night just for us. I'll take care of everything." The element of surprise can add an extra layer of excitement and make the night even more memorable.
If your partner(s) is not one for surprises or prefers making plans together, you can get them on board and ideate on your special night together.
2. Fun is for Everyone
Try to think about what would be satisfying for you and your partner(s). If they’ve been grinding away at work, something relaxing like a spa day or a spellbinding stargazing session could be just what they need.
If they've been craving adventure, a road trip or a hike could be a great way to get those endorphins rushing and spend some time in nature together. What about yourself–how have you been fantasising about spending time with your partner?
Apart from getting naughty with a personal massager like Salty, of course. [*wink wink*] If you’re buzzing away with a bunch of ideas you can always save them for future dates! The most important thing is to spend time together and create memories that you will cherish.
3. Keeping it Comfy
Be mindful to check about where your lover would feel more safe and at ease to meet for a date, whether at home or outdoors, particularly if you’re still getting to know each other.
Ensure that your plan is mindful of any disabled or neurodivergent needs your date(s) might have, like picking a restaurant that is wheelchair friendly and picking activities that suit their sensory preferences, like visiting a museum with dim lights.
4. Setting the Mood
Craft a romantic atmosphere by lighting some candles, using throws and pillows to make the space more inviting, play some music that you enjoy listening together–check out Sassy’s playlists for some bangers! If you're going out, pick a restaurant or venue with a romantic vibe to elevate the experience.
5. Curating Your Safe Playground
It’s best to communicate beforehand about what your thoughts around playtime for the date night are–things like if you want to get down and dirty once after you’re done with your wholesome dinner, and if you’re going to be spending the night. This can allow everyone to be prepared and think about what they’re comfortable with, even if things do get a little steamy and intense in the heat of the moment.
If you are thinking about getting it on, take care to create a space where you and boo can get your hands all over each other, while playing safe. Stock up on lube–try our water based lube, DTF 2.0. It's oh so smooth and thicc for added pleasure. Washing and charging your intimate massagers and before your date will put you in your date’s good books!
6. Connecting through Conversation
Whether you’re playing a flirtatious card game or going wine tasting together, dates give you an opportunity to get to know each other well, connect through conversation and dive deep into each other's thoughts, dreams, and passions. It's a chance to share stories, laugh together, and discover common interests.
So embrace the chance and think about what (more) you’re excited to discover about boo, what you’d like to share about yourself and what's been going on in your life. Remember to SPILL all the wonderful feelings you’ve been feeling about your relationship.
7. Being Here and Now
It goes without saying that you shouldn't be constantly on your phone during precious date night with your beloved. Check your schedule in advance to pick a time that suits everyone so you can be fully present during your date.
It's okay to have to respond to important messages and calls, but try to set things up in a way that you can make the best out of the time you are together.
8. Embrace Flexibility
The point of planning date night is not so that everything goes as per schedule, but to communicate care and affection. So it's completely alright if something comes up and if plans may need to be altered.
Remaining open-minded and flexible will help you to have a smooth experience, regardless. Take a cue from our crowd pleaser, the personal body massager OG–it has ten vibes and is bendy, so flex it all you want!
9. It’s the Little Things
Thoughtful gestures like getting your date a bouquet of their beloved flowers, complimenting them on how gorgeous they look, and opening the door for them can show your partner how much you adore them.
10. Being Open to the New
Whether you're a natural romantic and have your A-game on when it comes to taking your sweetheart out on a date, or are someone who's not super familiar with how to go about it, stepping a little bit out of your comfort zone and being open to a sense of adventure and can deepen the connection with your partner(s) and create unforgettable memories.
So go ahead, unleash your playful side, and create a date night that will leave you both craving for more. Remember to prioritise open communication, respect boundaries, and ensure consent throughout the entire experience. As always, here's wishing you the best of pleasure.
About the Author
Anna (she/they) is a queer, neurodivergent and disabled psychologist and writer. They have always been curious about pleasure and conversations around it (and wanted to found a condom company when they were 12, because of Global North misinformed panic that the climate crisis is a consequence of overpopulation–they’ve learnt better now). They wish to contribute to a world where everyone can enjoy access to pleasure, safely and shamelessly.