Riding Solo: 10 Reasons To Indulge in Self Pleasure

Self Pleasure

What does spending quality ‘me-time’ or 'self pleasure' look like for you? Perhaps having a dance party to your favourite bangers, pampering yourself to a warm bath, brewing some hibiscus tea, or journaling? Do you have a go-to pleasure toy that also makes a feature? If yes, then you go qween! And if no, that’s cool too, because it’s all about owning what feels good to you.

If you are curious about embarking on a one person joy-ride, Aunt Sassy can give you all the reasons in the world, for why this can be an amazing adventure. But we’ll stick to 10 to keep things simple! Do check out our exciting collection of adult products equipped with multiple vibes and oodles of TLC–whether you’re a newbie or an expert wanker, we’ve got it all. Continue reading and let the good vibes roll! 

10 Reasons To Indulge in Self Pleasure:

  1. A Safe Space
    Self-pleasure is a judgement-free zone. Of course we all have our own insecurities which might loom in our minds even when we’re playing with ourselves. But being alone can allow you to let go of any stress that might arise in the presence of others. This distance from external pressure can help you be true to yourself without feeling self conscious. You’re the main event baby, so embrace yourself and enjoy the ride!

  2. Discover Your Desires
    Self-pleasure can be the perfect playground to explore your fantasies. From the mild to the wild, let your imagination run free and indulge in all the sensations your body craves. Get exploring with LIT, a body massager available in Barbie pink, with rhythmic suction technology designed to kiss your clit (and wherever else you please!)

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  3. Empower Yourself  

    Solo play is for all bodies–no matter if you’re queer, fat or disabled–and getting handsy with yourself can be a wonderful way to celebrate what makes you, you. Feeling the shape of your body, the stretch marks, and the hair, in a space away from the male gaze and any criticism can allow you to look at yourself more lovingly.

  4. Build Sexual Agency
    As you explore your own needs and preferences, you become more in tune with your body and what makes you feel oh-so-good. With a better understanding of what feels safe and what doesn’t, you can develop a sense of boundaries for yourself in the bedroom. This can help you prioritise your comfort and sexual wellbeing in the bedroom. And when it comes to comfort, our best water based lube DTF is just what you need! With its natural ingredients and tempting smooth texture, our lube makes getting wet even more fun. 

  5. Get In Touch with Your Emotions
    By taking the time to understand your own needs and desires, you develop a stronger emotional connection with yourself. As you listen to your body during moments of pleasure, you become more in tune with what brings you joy and satisfaction. This awareness can translate into other areas of your life, by promoting more mindfulness.

  6. Enhance Partnered Play
    Knowing what makes your toes curl enables you to communicate your desires better to your partners, creating a deeper connection and more satisfying experiences together. And your comfort with expressing your needs can encourage boo to reciprocate and share their desires as well! An open and honest dialogue can also make it easier to discuss safe pleasure practices like using protection and planning aftercare.

    partnered play

  7. Unwind 
    Jerking off can melt away your stress and leave you floating on cloud nine. As you let go of tension and focus solely on gratification, your body releases endorphins and oxytocin, the "feel-good" hormones, which can boost your mood and overall happiness. This blissful escape can allow you to recharge, rejuvenate, and return to your day feeling fresh.

  8. Soothe Those Cramps
    When menstruating, self stimulation can provide relief by releasing endorphins, reducing pain, and promoting relaxation through increased blood flow. It can act as a positive distraction, making those crampy days a bit more bearable. Solo play can also provide relief with other kinds of pain. Don't forget to take things at your own pace, listen to your body and stop if anything feels uncomfortable. And please keep in mind  that the effectiveness of pleasure play for pain relief can vary from person to person. If you choose to use intimate toys during this time, opt for those that are specifically designed for easy cleaning and maintenance–all of Aunt Sassy’s intimate massagers pass this check! 

  9. Sleep Like a Baby
    Post getting naughty with yourself, the release of oxytocin can make it easier to fall asleep and get sound sleep. Treat yourself to some bedtime bliss for a night of sweet dreams!


  10. Join the Pleasure Revolution
    In a society that often prioritises partnered over solo intimacy, allowing ourselves to claim the agency of pleasure that we have in our hands can lead to a more fulfilling and authentic life. By embracing self-pleasure, we can bridge the orgasm gap that exists between people with penises as compared to people with vulvas and those who are intersex. Grab hold of one of our personal massagers like Salty–a powerful vibe that can get your coochie rumbling–and join Aunt Sassy’s pleasure positive revolution! 


About the Author 

Anna (she/they) is a queer and neurodivergent. They have always been curious about pleasure and conversations around it (and wanted to found a condom company when they were 12, because of Global North misinformed panic that the climate crisis is a consequence of overpopulation–they’ve learnt better now). They wish to contribute to a world where everyone can enjoy access to pleasure, safely and shamelessly. 

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