Back in early 2022, I was binge-watching the popular series The Bold Type, and I remember screaming, “YASSS” at my laptop screen when Kat Edison (a character portrayed by actor Aisha Dee) said, "Women can be alone and be sexually satisfied".
The dialogue felt personal given how my partnered sex life was dry as hay for as long as I could remember. But, during this time, every solo session with my toys truly helped, transformed, and rejoiced me and my pleasure. And, now that Masturbation May just went by, the timing seems perfect to share some of my favorite tried, and tested positions for your next rendezvous at Coochiella (masturbation, duh)!
The Top 4 Solo Sex Positions with Sex Toys:
Position 1: Flicking with a Twist
You’ve heard all about flicking the bean – this one’s the same but with a racy twist. As you rub the clit, give yourself the time to explore different movements, paces, and rhythms. So, if you like to go in circles, mix it up with a gentle yet firm tap-tap motion.
Further, press harder or go softly, depending on how close you are to the big O, and throw in one of the best water-based lubricants: DTF by That Sassy Thing to ensure a smoother flow while getting handsy with yourself. You can lie on your back or sit straight to make this technique work better and have better access to your vulva.
Pro tip: If you’re already familiar with clit play, you may try stimulating the area around your urethral opening (the pee-hole) and go from your clit to the urethra in a smooth, sliding motion for the absolute oomph!
Position 2: Roll Over & Suck It
This one’s for all the experimenting kweens who love to get down and dirty—and when I say that, I mean face down, lie on your abdomen, covered in comforters, with your toy in place. For this position, I used the LIT personal massager ‘cause I absolutely dig the way it sucks on your clit! Just merely placing it around your clit on speed 2 (yes, it comes with 5 different modes) gives you the PQ (pussy quiver - Masaba Masaba reference FTW).
Switch on LIT, or any other intimate massager that you may have, pick your ideal setting, and tuck it inside your panties carefully so that it can touch the spot you wanna excite. Once you’re comfortable, grind against the bed to move your body and you can already picture how good that would feel, haven’t you
Position 3: Leg-Up & Lube On
I am biased towards this position because I love frequently visiting my G-spot (or, area, or town). My vibrator OG is the perfect partner in play for this. What I love the most about this position is how you have so much more control of the penetration, and it can be enjoyable (and, in my case, even orgasmic)!
Raise your legs up and fold them if you’d like. Add lots of lube here, and since you’re using a toy, a water-based lube like DTF is your best bet! Now, warm up a little with ample clitoral play, fingering, and placing the vibrator around your vaginal opening. Once you feel turnt enough, slowly start inserting the vibrator (make sure yours is) and begin with slow but steady strokes. Add lube along the way, and switch the frequencies (OG has a combination of 10 speeds & patterns) for the ultimate finish.
Position 4: Multitask like Monica
Think of a dinner buffet where you spatter a little of everything on the menu to get a taste of it all. Now, let’s apply that logic to pleasure and how because there are so many ways to make your huha happy, why not work on two things at once?
Read More: The Sassy Guide to Multiple Orgasms
For this position, it’s ideal to have access to both your vagina and the vulva, so feel free to stand straight with your leg raised in the shower, or you can even bend in the doggy for just the right kinda adventure. Use a penetrative toy like OG, and a body massager like That Sassy Thing’s Salty to take you to the seventh heaven.
Now, I hope you’ve had a taste of all of ‘em, but if something gets your juices flowing (both brain and bottom), give it a shot. After all, you don’t *really* need a reason to indulge in some much-deserved self-love sesh. But, if a way is what you’re looking for, we’re giving you four to get your freak on when you masturbate next! *winkwink*
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