There’s always a kick in trying something new - a new dish, a new place, a new friend. And guess what? Your bedroom is no exception. That's what this piece is all about. It’s a guide to super fun different sex positions, made with the hope that you’re going to try a new one tonight. Let’s ride in :)

1. Understanding Different Sex Positions

Remember when Bunny said, “Life mein thoda keema pav, tangdi kabab, hakka noodle bhi hona chahiye na?” Well, I'm pretty sure he was hinting at trying out new sex positions! Sex is for your pleasure, and adding variety always brings different, better and more pleasure on the table (pun totally intended)

It’s easy to fall into a sexual rut, especially in a long-term monogamous relationship. Now, not everyone is down for exploring wild kinks - and at such times, exploring new positions becomes the game-changer that can save you. Most people are comfortable with trying out new moves—it's just about finding what clicks for both of you. Different kinds of sex positions become the easiest way to spice things up and keep that passion burning strong.

Experimenting with different intercourse positions also helps you uncover new things you might enjoy, find undiscovered sweet spots and fresh ways to amp things up. Plus, it's such a risk-free way to turn up the heat between you and yours truly, isn't it?

2. Popular Sex Positions and Their Variations -

I wasn’t going to leave you at ‘oh, try more sex positions!’ I was just beginning a full-blown (hehe) manual.

Let's start with one of the classics - Missionary. It's where one partner lies on their back and the other is on top. This brings both the people face-to-face with each other, so you can also look into their eyes / attack with kisses. But is that the only way you can do it?

Let’s call the partner who relaxes, or the receiver as ‘A’ and the partner doing the penetration ‘B’ - for better understanding. 

Imagine doing missionary in a ‘knees bent’ type of sex style. A can start by folding and pulling their knees towards their chest, and then resting the feet against B - who will, at this time, kneel facing A. This lets A rest their feet against B’s chest - creating excellent alignment and support for an even hotter connection.

Or, spice it up with the ‘around the neck’ variation: A can lie on their back and pull their legs up tight towards their chest. Now, A can go on and wrap their leg around B’s neck.

Alternatively, try the ‘prop-up’ method: Simply use a pillow to lift Partner A's hips. This tweak angles A's pelvis up, ramping up the depth and intensity of penetration.

And of course, there’s my personal favorite twist on missionary: ‘Spread Eagle’. A spreads their legs wide in the air, forming an open triangle shape. Now. B will lie on top from between A's legs. I love this position because the skin contact here is, oh my god, so hot.

The next position on our manual is something you might’ve heard so many jokes on - the infamous ‘Doggy Style’. A typically gets on all fours, while B kneels behind, holding A's hips and thrusting to both their heart's content.

But one more time, is that the only way to do it?

I recently stumbled upon the ‘Prison Guard Doggy Style.’ Here's how it works:  A bends over and B takes A’s hands from behind, pulling them back, in a slightly dominant way. Honestly, it’s such a simple way to get a very little form of power play, and I can’t wait to try this myself!

Another sexy, to-do variation of the doggy style is the ‘Leapfrog position’. Just like the name suggests, A gets into a pose resembling a frog ready to leap, with knees close to elbows, while B enters from behind. It's a playful twist on a classic, and makes me feel adventurous.

And just when you thought we were done with our variation manual, I've got a few more up my sleeve!

 The ‘Face off’.  B sits on a chair or the edge of the bed and A sits on their lap, facing each other. B can now hold A’s hips and lift, bounce, or move as slow or fast as they prefer together. This is one of the hottest ways of all time - cause you can go all handsy all over your partner’s body super easily, especially the upper body - face, neck and the nipples too. Plus, it’s cozy as heck to just sit and chat and be playful for a while in between. Hot tip : Get a rock(y) chair for this one.

And for the times when you’re at a party, I love the ‘Restroom Attendant’. Slip into a bathroom, make use of a clean sink, and be as dirty as you can :) A gazes into the mirror, while B enters from behind. The special thing is that this lets you have eye contact despite the rear entry. If both are into powerplay, B can give A’s hair a tug. Feel free to experiment with your own variations using a sink and mirror—just remember not to get caught!

And where there’s a party, you know there's gotta be a pole. Enter the "Pole Position,’ also known as the Thighmaster. It looks like this -

See how A straddles B’s raised leg with a thigh on either side? How amazing is that!

3. Exploring Different Intercourse Methods and Style

If porn has taught us anything - it’s that rough, quick, hard thrust is the hottest kind of sex. Sure, those scenes get a lot of attention, but they also overlook the beauty of slow, passionate moments.

Now, I’m not saying that rough sex time isn’t sexy, but sometimes, you just want your boo to run their fingers over your back, and kiss you on your waist. Sometimes, you just want someone to go in slowly, and look into your eyes with each stroke, while planting a forehead kiss or two.

And sometimes, a mix of both types of sex styles works magic as well : imagine starting with your partner moving their fingers around your hair and ending with pulling your hair. That has its own fun too, right?

There’s no one-size-fits-all-speed in the bedroom. On certain days, your partner can have the most beautiful orgasms from the slow, deliberate strokes, and on other days, just the clitoral stimulation can make them go! Sometimes, it’s the oh-i’m-blacking-out fast are the times both of you remember. Keep switching things up, and try varying speeds, to figure what (mix) works the best for you and your partner!

Also, surprise-surprise! Various intercourse positions and speed are not the only way to spice things up.

Role play is a great, great way to make things more interesting. Be someone you aren’t and someone you might never get a chance to be irl. Take this vacation from your everyday life. Now, if you’re just trying this out, it might be awkward, like a lot of other things you do for the first time, but trust me - it only gets better from there.

And don't forget to lube it up, baby! DTF water based lube gel, my bestie will get you wet like nothing else. With plenty of lubrication, the possibilities for trying fun techniques and experimenting are endless. And ofcourse, I’ll never not mention how amazing sex toys and vibrators can get in absolutely any kind of mix, taking all experiences to new heights.

Oh, and remember, your brain is the ultimate sex organ. Stimulate it by whispering dirty things in your partner's ear. "There's something incredibly hot about pinning you down," or "Let's make a dirty movie tonight." Hearing how badly your partner desires you in the moment becomes a cherry on the cream (which is something that I hope you’re using!)

4. Tips for Communicating and Experimenting with Your Partner

Sure, all those various intercourse positions, speeds, and tips are fantastic, but before you ride that wave, you've got to talk it out with your partner. Are they open to trying new things? What are their boundaries? Is there a fantasy they're dying to explore?

Having these conversations might feel awkward or challenging at first. Nobody really teaches us how to navigate this stuff - no classes or textbooks. So, Aunt Sassy wanted to drop in and give some of her best tips for better communication with your partner :

a. Try using words that will not sound like you blame your partner. For example : Use more ‘I’ sentences than ‘you’ ones. ‘I would like if we try a little of roleplay’ is a far better way to communicate your feelings v/s saying ‘You never try roleplay with me’

b. A great idea would be to talk about sex after sex. This doesn’t have to be with an agenda, but more of what you enjoyed the most today and what you’d like more of. The more casual and natural your conversations about sex become, the easier it gets.

c. Create a safe space for your partner. Never judge them for their fantasies, doubts or thoughts. Actively listen and share your own feelings in return. In this way, you start building a layer of trust - and more often than not, your partner will try to reciprocate to your sexual feelings in the same way. It’s a little bit like tit for tit (in a good, best pun possible way)

Just breathe - there’s no shame in expressing what you feel, even if it’s about sex.

So, whatchuuu waiting for honey? Go make that booty call, and with new positions, new speeds and new ways of doin’ it this time. 

Also check out our blogs on - what is sex drive and what is unprotected sex

FAQs on different sex positions

What are the benefits of trying different sex positions?

Trying out different sex positions spices things up in the bedroom, adding excitement and pleasure. It's like exploring a buffet of sensations, finding new ways and spots that rock your boat and keep the passion alive.

How can I talk to my partner about trying new sex positions?

Be kind and empathetic - while sharing your feelings and hearing out theirs. Remember that timing matters, so pick up a moment where you’re both comfortable to have this chat.

What are some beginner-friendly sex positions to try?

Start with classics like Missionary or Doggy Style. They're easy to master and can be spiced up with your own simple twists.

Are there any advanced sex positions for adventurous couples?

I am a fan of ‘Restroom Attendant’, the one where you sneak out of a party or a club and head for a clean sink in the bathroom. More than the position itself, what makes it adventurous is the thrill that comes with it.

How can we safely experiment with different intercourse methods?

Communicate openly, use plenty of lube, and take it slow to ensure comfort and safety while exploring new techniques and positions.

What are some sensual sex styles we can try?

The ‘Face Off’, a position where you sit on your partner’s lap, facing them is highly sensual. This allows an almost complete skin contact, plus an easy way to look into each other’s eyes as you do what you wanna dooo.

Can role play be incorporated into sex positions?

Absolutely! Integrate role play to add a dash of fantasy and playfulness to any position, making your intimate moments even hotter and more exciting.

About the Author :

Hemali (she/her) is an explorer of the realms of sexuality, intimacy, and dating. She talks endlessly about the evolving landscape of feminist narratives on the big screen and makes you reanalyze the portrayal of women in mainstream culture. If you're looking for alternative conversation starters, take your pick from: Biryani, Art Fairs, or Spoken Word Poetry.