The What, the How, and the Holy Sh*t, Did That Just Happen?
So... What Is Squirting, Really?
Squirting is that magical, mysterious gush of fluid that sometimes happens during intense sexual arousal or orgasm. It comes from the urethra, and while it feels otherworldly, it’s not some ancient erotic spell—just the body doing what it’s totally capable of.
The Science-y part: The liquid is mostly water (yep, from the bladder) and urine, mixed with a little something from the Skene’s glands, aka the “female prostate.” It can be a little, a lot, or Niagara Falls—everyone’s different.
What It’s Not
Let’s bust a few myths while we’re here:
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Not pee: Yes, it comes from the bladder. No, it’s not you losing bladder control. (Think of it like your bladder getting invited to the orgasm party.)
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Not mandatory: You’re not missing out if you’ve never squirted. It’s a bonus round, not the whole game.
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Not a kink-exclusive thing: You don’t have to be swinging from chandeliers to squirt. Sometimes it happens during solo play, sometimes mid-cuddle.
What Reddit Thinks (Because Let’s Be Real, It’s Where the Fun Is)
Reddit users have shared diverse experiences:
"The first time me and my wife hooked up, she soaked my bed all night with squirting. She had never done it before that day and never did it again after. It was an amazing experience, and I'd love to get her that aroused again, but with age comes loss of some sexual attributes."
"Yes, I would just like to please know if it might happen so I can prepare and throw down a towel."
"Try engaging all her senses to help her get out of her head – music, comfortable temp room, comfortable surface... Try using a vibrator when she's by herself... Also – don't concentrate on getting her to orgasm. The pressure to get there can totally kill the vibe. Concentrate on pleasure & relaxation.”
Can You Learn to Do It?
Short answer: Yes.
Longer answer: …yes, but it’s like learning to whistle. Some people just... do it. Some need a bit of technique. Others are still waiting. And that’s fine.
What The Experts Say About Squirting (and How to Get There)
According to sex educators and researchers, most people with vulvas can learn to squirt, even if it doesn’t happen naturally at first. Curious if there’s a right way to squirt? You're not alone—and some of the world’s most well-known sex educators have a lot to say about it. Check out these resources by Kiana Reeves and Emily Nagoski (and yes, technique matters).
The (Very Fun) Guide to Squirting
Key ingredients:
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G-spot stimulation (that lil rough bit about 2 inches in on the front wall of the vagina).
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Hydration (drink water, not wine).
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A comfy, pressure-free vibe (no anxiety, please).
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Sometimes a full-ish bladder helps. (Go with it. Literally.)
How to Explore Squirting
1. On Your Own (The Solo Quest)
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Hydrate! (Squirting on empty is like trying to run a car on fumes.)
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Use your fingers or a curved G-spot toy. Go slow. Press gently up and in.
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When you feel like you might pee—keep going. That’s the edge you want.
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Put a towel down. Trust us.
2. With a Partner (The Co-Op Mode)
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Talk about it beforehand. Squirting surprises can be wet and wild, but it helps if your partner’s onboard.
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Combine G-spot pressure with external play (clit stimulation = major upgrade).
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Give lots of time for foreplay—rushing is the enemy of release.
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Keep the mood light and playful. Think science experiment with benefits.
3. With Toys (The Gadget Route)
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Use G-spot-specific sex toys—curved, firm, and easy to control.
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Vibrating options or ones that combine internal + clit stimulation = chef’s kiss.
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Try waterproof ones in the shower for easier cleanup and extra steaminess.
Are Some People Just Born to Squirt?
Kind of, yeah. Some folks squirt without even trying. Others practice for months. Anatomy, comfort levels, and mindset all play a role. But don’t stress—it’s not a competition, it’s a journey (and a slippery one at that).
Notes for Partners
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Don’t make it a goal: Pressure = mood killer.
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Communicate: Ask, “Do you want to explore squirting together?” not “Can you squirt for me?”
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Be helpful: Maybe have that towel ready. Maybe don’t wear your favorite bedsheet.
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Be proud: It’s not your achievement, but you did help set the stage. Applause is allowed.
Things to Keep in Mind
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You don’t have to squirt to have an amazing orgasm.
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If it doesn’t happen? Cool. If it does? Awesome.
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Never push past what feels good—discomfort is not part of the deal.
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Clean-up is real. Mattress protectors and pee pads are underrated.
Final Splash
Squirting can be thrilling, empowering, and just plain fun—but it’s not the final boss of sex. Whether you’re a natural waterfall, a curious explorer, or just here for the reading material, remember: the best part of this experience is learning what your body can do when it’s safe, relaxed, and turned all the way on.
About the Author:
Madhu (she/her) has been an avid reader of all things spicy since her childhood. She writes sassy blog posts and listicles now so that others may benefit from her wholly inappropriate, wholly informative tastes, too.
