Darling, let’s cut to the chase. I know vaginal intercourse might not always top your list of favorites like getting your clit sucked is. But hold up, what if I spill some secrets and show you how to let penetrative sex take you to heaven? Let's not waste any time on a fancy intro and slide right in! 

Once you’re feeling all hot and bothered, your vagina begins to moisten a bit. When you’re ready to roll, you or your partner can gently guide the penis into the vagina using your hand. Take your time here. Seriously, no need to rush things, especially if you’re still getting the hang of each other’s bodies.

Alright, so once the penis is inside, it’s time to find that rhythm. Move your bodies so the penis pushes in and then pulls partly (or fully) out again. Just go with what feels good and comfy for both of you.

There's no one-size-fits-all guide to nailing vaginal sex. It can be gentle, adventurous, slow, rough and everything in between. You and your partner get to find what clicks for you—and it's totally okay if it takes a few tries to find what works for both of you!

Building Comfort and Communication:

Deciding if you wanna have vaginal intercourse is totally up to you, bestie. Don’t do it just because you saw it as the grand finale in porn or think that’s how "sex" is supposed to go down. Both of you need to be super enthu about it—no one should feel forced. Have a real talk with your partner about what you’re comfy with, and make sure you're both on the same page.

Sometimes you're not sure what you're really vibing with—and that's totally cool. Experimenting can be the key to figuring this out. Try out different things and keep the convo flowing with your partner as you do. Hit them with a "Yasss, I love that! Do it more!" or "Can we speed up a bit?" If something's not feeling right, it's all good to say, "I'm not into this, wanna switch to kissing?"  You and your boo can figure out what you love and what’s a no-go even while you’re in the moment.

Just 'cause you started something doesn't mean you gotta see it through. You can hit pause anytime. "I'm not really comfortable with this right now, can we just Netflix and chill instead?" Your comfort comes first, always - and your partner will totally get that.

Just like with oral sex or kinks, everyone's got their own preference when it comes to vaginal sex. Some are all about it, some are like, meh, and some just ain't feelin' it. And guess what? What you’re into can totally change—depends on your mood or your partner. 

Just a quick heads up: don't dive in if you or your partner are totally smashed—even if you've been together forever. Consent is key every single time, so make sure you’re both on board and totally into it.

Exploring Anatomy and Pleasure:

Alright, let’s get real for a hot minute: cause of all the hush-hush around our bodies, lots of women aren’t clued up about their own anatomy. So, here’s the lowdown: the vulva and the vagina aren’t the same thing. What you see and feel on the outside—your clit, labia, and even your pee hole—that’s all part of your vulva. Your vagina? That’s the inside part—the tunnel that links your vulva to your uterus. The part where periods and babies come from. When something goes in there, that’s what we call vaginal intercourse. 

For many women, the vagina isn't always the main pleasure zone. So, how can we amp up the fun during penetrative sex and make it an all-around good time?

I’ve got a juicy trick for you - pairing. This is about hitting up your clit while you're getting busy down in your vagina. You can reach down and give it some love with your own fingers, or let your partner take the reins while you kick back and let yourself go! Double the pleasure, double the fun, right?

Here’s another hot tip: lift those hips up during intercourse penetration. It’s like unlocking a whole new world of pleasure angles for your toy or your partner’s penis to hit just right inside. Grab yourself an UP Sex Pillow and get that perfect positioning on lock!

Get ready for another game-changer: it’s called ‘shallowing.’ Just dipping the tip of the penis in and hone in on that first inch inside. Why? Because that’s where the magic happens! The majority of the nerves in the vagina are in that first-third area, making it hypersensitive and primed for stimulation. Plus, the head of the penis is hella sensitive too, so this technique brings a whole lot of pleasure for both of you.

Stay in for a bit. Instead of the usual in-and-out, your pelvis stays connected and grinds together. It's a whole different way from the usual routine, making it a fresh experience for both of you.

Here’s a tip from one of my friends: have a clitoral orgasm before diving into penetrative sex. It’s like revving up your pleasure engine and getting all warmed up for round two. Maybe it’s not your usual go-to move, but hey, check if this works for you!

Addressing Pain and Discomfort:

Listen up, sis: sex should not hurt (unless you’re into that kinda thing!). If it’s painful during penetration, here’s what you can do -

A. Get that lube action going: If you're feeling friction, it might be 'cause things are a bit dry down there. I swear by my water-based lub gel, DTF - it's like a magic potion that reduces the irritation and makes everything smooth sailing. Whether it's vaginal or anal, it's a game-changer. And even if dryness isn’t your issue, lube just adds to the fun, no harm done, bestie! Don’t be shy to lube it up.

A. Have a chat with your partner: Be real with them about the pain you're feeling during vaginal sex. That way, they'll take it slow and keep checking in with you. Let 'em know what's really hurting and what they can do to make things smoother for you.

B. Mix it up a bit: Don't be afraid to get creative in the bedroom. If vaginal sex is a pain, switch things up. See what floats your boat without causing any discomfort. Dive into other fun activities like oral action or a chill sensual massage. Don’t hesitate to shake things up.

C. Bring in the sex toys : Sometimes you're craving that penetration even if it's a pain. It can feel frustrating when your body's not on board with your desires. That's where Flex vibrator comes in handy. With vibrators in the mix, you're in control of how much penetration feels right for you. So go ahead, have a blast!

D. Don't dive in headfirst: Start with two fingers and stick with that until it feels comfy. You can also ease in just the tip, inch by inch, checking in on comfort levels as you go. Once it's in, chill for a sec instead of going straight into thrusting. Take your time to adjust to each inch deeper.

E. If none of these tips do the trick, it’s time to hit up your gynac. An expert opinion on what’s happening in your body and why you’re feeling this way can make a world of difference. 

Optimizing Positions for Pleasure:

My favorite position is the one where I sit on my partner’s lap and face him. This not only allows deep intercourse but also gives my clit some serious action. Plus, I get to see his face up close, share some laughs, and sneak in a few kisses.

For some women, being on top is where it's at. This position hits the G-spot just right, thanks to the angle of the peen. Plus, you're the boss, controlling the speed, depth, and angle—making it tailor-made for your big O.

I was also scrolling through Reddit to find this out and read that different positions actually work for different people! Some swear by reverse cowgirl, others dig doggy style, and then there are the classic missionary fans. Bottom line? There's no one-size-fits-all way to get down, and no single "right" position either!

Incorporating Foreplay and Sensual Touch:

Let's talk foreplay—it's seriously underrated. It syncs up your body and mind, getting you all revved up and ready to go. And let's not forget, it's the secret sauce for getting things nice and naturally lubed up down there, making penetration a total breeze.

Now's also your chance to explore other hot spots on the body—like the neck, shoulders, inner thighs, or back. You can lead the way and give your partner some cues, or get hands-on and explore your own body while your partner lays on the kisses or goes down.

Take your time and don’t skimp on the foreplay. Those extra minutes are what makes the whole experience next-level and hella enjoyable. Plus, you'll find all those goofy, awkward, and downright fun moments in this mix.

Exploring Fantasies and Desires:

Brain is the most powerful sex organ, always remember that. Fantasies kick things into gear up there long before anyone lays a finger on you.

Fantasies naturally build up the anticipation for the grand finale. They also spice things, especially if you've been with a long-term partner—keeping everything, including vaginal intercourse, extra arousing. Fantasies, role play, and even dirty talk actively push those non-sexual thoughts aside, keeping you fully engaged in the moment.

It's always a solid move to incorporate one, or all three, during sex. (your cue to go get the tie right away.)

Overcoming Challenges and Obstacles:

If the hacks you read earlier ain't cutting it with the pain, don't brush it off—treat it like a red alert. It could be something serious needing a gynac’s attention, like ovarian cysts, endometriosis, or vaginismus. Or maybe it's an infection, like a pesky UTI. And yeah, worst-case scenario—though I hope you never have to deal with it—get yourself checked for an STD.

Sometimes, past trauma can mess with your fun, creating major discomfort during intercourse penetration. Your mind puts up this massive roadblock. When you're feeling out of whack mentally—whether it's burnout, depression, anxiety, or dealing with PTSD—your body feels it too. That energy can seriously throw off your game. That's where a sex therapist comes in clutch. They will help you work through this stuff and get back to feeling good in the sack.

Alright, now that I’ve hooked you up with a ton of lit tips to up your vaginal intercourse game, I gotta drop some real talk safety tips: Always practice safe sex! Get your fun on, but keep it protected to dodge those unwanted surprises like pregnancies and STDs. Pro tip: Always hit the bathroom and pee after vaginal intercourse. Peeing flushes a lot of germs that might have entered your body right out! You can catch a lot of such cool, simple tricks by taking our free masterclass on Sex Ed Basics by Karishma Swarup.

Now, baby boo, before I bid you adieu, remember: an orgasm is an orgasm, no matter how you get there. If you're getting there with LIT Clitoral Vibrators on your clit, that's cool as hell! You can have vaginal intercourse just for the pleasure of it, without the pressure to climax. Just have fun, that’s all Aunt Sassy wants for you.

Now that you've got the lowdown on making vaginal intercourse an electrifying experience, why stop here? Dive deeper into our treasure trove of tips, tricks, and intimate secrets on our blog. From exploring the magic of adult massagers to mastering the art of foreplay, our posts are packed with insights to help you enhance your pleasure and intimacy. Expand your knowledge and keep the passion alive by checking out our blogs on “Can older women have sex” and “How to master phone sex” today!

FAQs on Vaginal sex:

What is vaginal sex?

Vaginal sex is the insertion of a penis into the vagina and moving it in ways that feel amazing for both partners.

How can I make vaginal sex more pleasurable for myself and my partner?

There are various ways to do this : like pairing i.e. simultaneously stimulating your clit or shallowing - which is inserting just the tip of the penis into the beginning of your vagina. These are just 2 out of the many tips!

What if I experience pain during penetration?

Don't brush it off, reach out to a local gynac pronto. It's always better to be safe than sorry.

Are there specific positions that allow for deeper penetration?

Yes, while there are many - one great way is elevating your hips using an UP, which allows for better and deeper angles.

How can I maintain emotional intimacy during vaginal sex?

Lock eyes with your partner as they're inside you or let out a moan of their name. This feels super personal and intimate.

What if I have concerns or insecurities about my body during vaginal sex?

Remember, your partner is there because they're crazy about you. Focus on how turned on they get with each passing minute—it's a surefire sign of their attraction to you.

Author Bio :

Hemali (she/her) is an explorer of the realms of sexuality, intimacy, and dating. She talks endlessly about the evolving landscape of feminist narratives on the big screen and makes you reanalyze the portrayal of women in mainstream culture. If you're looking for alternative conversation starters, take your pick from: Biryani, Art Fairs, or Spoken Word Poetry.